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HFSSC (original poster member #33338) posted at 1:40 AM on Friday, November 8th, 2013
My younger son turned 15 on Tuesday.
And I gotta tell you, the kid is awesome. He has been through hell in the last 3 years. Absolute hell. He was just 12 when JM and I were S the 1st time. He told me later that he contemplated suicide the 2nd time we S.
But he is a strong, smart, sweet natured young man. 6 weeks ago he watched a 21 year old die in a horrible car accident. He's struggled to sleep, and also to keep up in school. He's in 3 honors classes as well as ROTC. And he missed all A/B honor roll by 1 POINT in his biology honors class.
That makes me proud. But the thing that brought tears to my eyes and made me realize what an amazing human being he is happened at church 2 weeks ago. I'm the worship leader and was leading the invitation hymn. We have an invitation at the end of every service, and people can just come to the altar to pray, or speak to the pastor. A friend of mine who is suffering from some serious medical problems came down and knelt. She was obviously very emotional, tears streaming down her face. And my boy got up, put his arm over her shoulders and knelt down beside her. In the midst of his pain and grief, he was able to see outside himself, and reach out to someone else.
Moments like that are heaven on earth to me. 
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
foundoutlater ( member #32900) posted at 1:44 AM on Friday, November 8th, 2013
Just wow - something right is happening there and your chest must burst with pride
Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 2:08 AM on Friday, November 8th, 2013
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 2:10 AM on Friday, November 8th, 2013
He sounds like a caring, good hearted person. You must be so proud of him.
courageous ( member #34477) posted at 2:26 AM on Friday, November 8th, 2013
Oh wow! That is so sweet and awesome. Thank you for sharing. 
Me: BW (in my 40's) Him: ExWH EA/PA with MOW coworker(also married). He ended up marrying his mistress.
dameia ( member #36072) posted at 2:29 AM on Friday, November 8th, 2013
Wow, what a beautiful soul. You should be proud, he sounds like a remarkable young man.
Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12
Trust is like paper. Once it's crumpled it can never be perfect again.
simplydevastated ( member #25001) posted at 2:42 AM on Friday, November 8th, 2013
You have an amazing young man
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
HFSSC (original poster member #33338) posted at 2:44 AM on Friday, November 8th, 2013
Thanks, y'all.
You know, I sometimes have a hard time when I think about the time my addictions stole from my kids, and it's easy to get down on myself.
Moments like this help me to see that I did some stuff right along the way.
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
happenedtome ( member #6042) posted at 2:53 AM on Friday, November 8th, 2013
What a wonderful young man you are raising! You have every right to be proud of him! Compassion like your son exhibits is so rare, especially in a teenager.
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