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Gajit posted 11/8/2013 10:12 AM

It finally hit me that I have so much to do!

1.pack up my house to get it ready for the market with NO help

2. find a place to live for me and my DGD, hopefully same school district

3. find a job (hopefully-I am 55 and haven't worked in 6 years)

4. rent a storage space for when I get started moving

5.apply for child support from DGD's mother who is getting a welfare check

6.apply for disability

All of this, and the holidays are near. OMG!
I don't know how I am going to do all of this on my own with no help. I so hate my WH right now I could poke out his eyes with a hot poker and pull a Lorena Bobbit at the same time! UGH!

changeofheart31 posted 11/8/2013 10:32 AM

Read you LOUD AND CLEAR ON ALL OF THE ABOVE..
They hurt us and yet we get stuck without support and having to fight to survive!!Its not fair, do you have any support from family or close friends?? I know that during this time if it was not for them who knows where my DS and I would be right now. Just take on one issue at a time. it always overwhelms me if I look at the whole list but if I break it down into smaller task I manage to get a lot more accomplished. Hang in there and know you are not alone.

Gajit posted 11/8/2013 11:10 AM

Not getting help from family. They have a lot of issues of their own to deal with and won't/can't help me.

I will try to do one thing at a time.

gonnabe2016 posted 11/8/2013 11:32 AM

Make a list. Think about *when* certain tasks HAVE to be accomplished by so that you can prioritize. And then focus on one thing at a time (although the packing itself can probably be done for a certain amount of time each day...)

Looking at all of it as a whole is very overwhelming. It made ME anxious and tired just reading it!

One bite at a time, Gaj.

careerlady posted 11/8/2013 23:52 PM

I'm so sorry he put you in this position

But you will persevere and thrive! He will be shocked to see how well how you are going to do without him.

You have a good start by listing everything, now break down everything in the list by tasks and tackle them. You got this!