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 tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 5:18 AM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013

Ex-shat condescended to pick up his son tonight. I told him Teslet had been complaining of a headache and when I had last given him some tylenol. Fucker was so dismissive and rude to me.

I simultaneously wanted to laugh at his childishness and taunt him about how shitty his life must be. I wanted to ask him if he felt as stupid as he looked when we were in court last week. I wanted to ask him how it felt to sink deeper into delusion and watch reality fade away. I am not a cruel person...but my god, did I want to rub his face in his sad and pathetic life.

I have not been on this track of the roller coaster for quite some time...but this week, I've been all over the place emotionally.

I haven't cared about how he feels about shit in a long time...but tonight, I hope he is miserable and suffering. Damn, damn, damn...where is this hate coming from?

Oh well, I'm hating on him tonight...ftg and may he fall off the face of the earth.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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sunsetslost ( member #39885) posted at 5:49 AM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013

And keep falling. (((tesla)))

Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

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careerlady ( member #16958) posted at 5:56 AM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013

You would think after all he put you through he could manage to be decent over a discussion about his son's headache. What a jerk, I'm so sorry you and Teslet have to deal with him.

Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 6:06 AM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013

Its all the contact Tesla (yes, court is contact), finding out about the engagement, all of the texts flying around - it IS crazy-making.

And the fact that teslet isn't well - I hate it when my girls are not with me when they are unwell. HATE IT.

Your life will become level again once this shit is sorted and he goes back into his box. If he never goes back into his box you will adjust and reach a new level of level, IYKWIM.

I've spiralled like this myself a few times - far less frequent and much shorter in duration each time. I call that progress. I haven't had one for many many months now.

He is doing this because you nailed him. Actually, he made it so easy he kind of nailed himself you just didn't lift a finger to stop him.

Take deep breaths and remind yourself this too shall pass. Things will settle once the court stuff is sorted and he gets this shit out of his system.

He'll try to pull whatever fuckery he can - I've learned to stop trying to predict it and also stop bracing myself for it. He can do things to irritate me but he can't really impact my life in a material way anymore. Neither can Asshat. These are the death throes as I purge him from the deepest parts of my soul.

Leave him to his pitiful show. You're boxing shadows right now - he's got nothing on you. NOTHING.

I hope your Teslet feels better soon.

((tesla & teslet))

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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inconnu ( member #24518) posted at 2:47 PM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013

(((tesla))) I agree, I think it's just because of all the contact. You've had to get back on the crazy train, temporarily. Just remember, the train is at the station, and you will get off of it before it departs. Otoh, the ex-shat is destined to stay on that train forever.

There is no joy without gratitude. - Brené Brown

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caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 3:09 PM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013

For me, court alone would be enough to put me on a roller coaster ride. I hate court. I hate the feeling like a child being scolded for doing "something" wrong. I hate the dirty feel of the building and the stale air and the condescension that abounds. UGH!

I sympathize with the emotional toll. (((hugs)))

And may he fall off the face of the earth... and have a rather nasty "landing." It is the impact that gets 'em, not the fall.

Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 3:53 PM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013

I think you need to smudge stick yourself.

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 4:12 PM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013

Hope you're feeling better today, tesla.

((((hugs))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 4:14 PM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013

He's trying to control you, prove that he has some power still. He is failing miserably and you are fighting back. So he pushes harder. He knows he has lost before he even began. It is frustrating.

Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

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 tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 3:16 AM on Sunday, November 10th, 2013

Yes, feeling much better today. I desperately need to decompress and I think I managed that today.

I wish he would crawl back into his box. I mean, come on, life must be awesome...he's engaged to the love of his life. He should be over the moon with happiness, how could he possibly even have the energy to be rude to me? I shouldn't even matter anymore, he's living the life he left me for!

I hope stripper whore turns on the bridezilla soon and gives ex-shat something else to focus on.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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SBB ( member #35229) posted at 6:04 AM on Sunday, November 10th, 2013

I mean, come on, life must be awesome.

Yeppers. One of my war cries comes to mind: "Dude, show your dick some respect and at least TRY to pretend your life is better this way.".

Really, its they least they could do if they just won't stay invisible....

I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 6:08 AM on Sunday, November 10th, 2013

Bridezilla!!!!!!!!!!

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 7:11 PM on Sunday, November 10th, 2013

Maybe he was dismissive and rude because he was mad that stripperwhore didn't appreciate the stripper pole that he installed in their living room

Who knows why he's a shit? But I promise you, his life is shitty. Every part of it, including the voice in his head...is shitty.

D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

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