He has tried to excuse his latest affair by saying my family was making him unhappy (my mom is living with us to provide childcare) and he doesn''t like the way the dishes are cleaned so he had to go "find happiness" He has also said we have both "sinned differently", he in cheating, and me in filing for divorce He says his regret is in not telling me earlier how much my family bothered him (so I could cut them off?). This is what substitutes for remorse in his narcissistic mind.
I don''t know if he thinks I''m going to give him another chance after his pathetic excuses and now the impression of a nice guy but it''s not happening. I am hoping he is planning to divorce amicably but since he is of questionable character who knows. I also am hoping that he will move out but I''m not pushing him cause I don''t want a messy contested divorce if I can help it. I''m sure I am looking at in house separation
[This message edited by careerlady at 12:44 AM, November 9th, 2013 (Saturday)]
If he's truly a narcissist, then there is no avoiding a messy, contested divorce. Narcissist = messy, contested divorce. And they fight you for full custody, too. Think "scorched earth". When you insult a narc by divorcing them, their only purpose in life is to destroy you.
Watch your back, sister.
I hope you don't end up with an in-house separation. I'm sure it's tough to sleep in the same house. I know I'm much stronger being away from STBX. I still look online for OW, who he says he is no longer in contact with, but I'd go crazy if I were around him still.
Stay away from his phone! Don't fall down that Rabbit hole. You know enough already!
The dishes?? Really? Their excuses are so absurd, you have to laugh (or you will one day). WH told me he cheated because I breastfed for too long, and I went to bed too early.
I hope he gets the fuck out soon, but as Naturegirl says (and she ought to know) be prepared for the shitstorm from hell.
Hugs and strength.
Besides I'm hoping he will think we are heading towards R and won't file a response and I'll get the default judgement. Hehe