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Nature_Girl (original poster member #32554) posted at 7:33 AM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013
I've shared here that the stress of my marriage almost killed me. I was hospitalized twice with what seemed like stroke symptoms (it wasn't, we still don't know what caused them). I had crippling back pain & needed a heating pad so much that my skin changed color. I had stomach pains so constant I popped Pepcid & Tums like they were Pez. Migraines up the wazoo (including ocular migraines, OMG!). Dizzy spells. Heart palpitations. And I developed high blood pressure that was truly frightening (240 over 210, if you can believe it!), although I was able to get it down with multiple medications. And I walked with a limp.
And then I Hefty Bagged his cheating, perverted ass.
Back pain disappeared.
Limp disappeared.
Stomach pain disappeared.
No more heart palpitations.
Kidney stones that I didn't know I had passed. Okay, ow!
Migraines never came back.
No more dizzy spells.
And now? Now that my divorce is final? My blood pressure readings are down 10-20 points??? Yeah, that's right.
Wow. Just wow.
Wow.
I hope this lasts.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Phoenix1 ( member #38928) posted at 7:42 AM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013
Stress can manifest itself in truly horrific ways, probably more ways than modern science can currently discern. Now that your horrific stress is gone, it makes sense that some of those physical manifestations have gone with it. That is terrific news, and you can now continue to heal further. Life will only get better for you and your children.
fBS - Me
Xhole - Multiple LTAs/2 OCs over 20+yrs
Adult Kids
Happily divorced!
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending. ~C.S. Lewis~
NewMom0220 ( member #39036) posted at 7:50 AM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013
Yay!!!! I bet you feel so much better. He was killing you...literally!
Me: BS 37
Him: WS 37
20 month old DS
Married 5 years, together 8, DIVORCING!!! (taking forever)
DDay: 3/1/13 (4 Month PA while I was pregnant)
Sometimes all you have to do is forget what you feel and remember what you deserve.
Bravenewgirl ( member #36267) posted at 1:36 PM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013
Wowzers.
Its like you had a tumor removed. Amazing!
oh, and congrats on the D being final!!! I am doing my happy dance for you!
((((((((NG))))))))))))
Don't come around here no more
-Tom Petty
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 5:01 PM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013
Stress can really do a number on your body. I have a friend who has been divorced over 30 years-- but she lost sight in her right eye for almost a year while divorcing her WH!!
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
Softcentre ( member #39166) posted at 5:11 PM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013
Wowzers.
Its like you had a tumor removed.
She did...he's her Ex 
Me: BW
Him: XWH
2 Children
Finally reached indifference & looking forward to my new beginning
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 5:28 PM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013
Wow … just wow! He was a toxic infectious tumor and you lanced it right off! Here's to your health NG!! 
Take2 ( member #23890) posted at 5:36 PM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013
A severe allergic reaction to perversion and asshats 
? Glad you are feeling so much better! So happy for you!
"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 11:18 PM on Saturday, November 9th, 2013
Stress does some shocking things to you. I rarely get sick but I was getting headaches almost weekly during the last year of that M - since S, not one (except the self-inflicted wine headaches which are pretty rare).
I'm thrilled for you NG.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 12:36 PM on Sunday, November 10th, 2013
I have to wonder whether he was slowly poisoning you.
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
Housefulloflove ( member #38458) posted at 5:02 PM on Sunday, November 10th, 2013
It's called "malignant" narcissism for a reason. The day of our divorce hearing I wrote "malignant narcissist removal" on my calender.
I'm so glad that you are doing better. He was definitely toxic to you mentally AND physically!
Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013
Housefulloflove ( member #38458) posted at 5:04 PM on Sunday, November 10th, 2013
I have to wonder whether he was slowly poisoning you.
With some of the discoveries about your ex that you have shared here, this seems like a big possibility as well.
Me-29 Starting over
ExWH-29 Probable NPD, PA, manchild
3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
No remorse so NO R. DIVORCED! 9/2013
ladies_first ( member #24643) posted at 5:23 PM on Sunday, November 10th, 2013
Do the resolution of many of these physical traits open up more possibilities for full-time employment, Nature_Girl?
"We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us." ~J. Campbell
"In the final analysis, it is your own attitude that will make or break you, not what has happened to you." ~D. Galloway
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 8:23 PM on Sunday, November 10th, 2013
I can tell when I'm stressed about something. Many people have headaches-- I get back pain that can sometimes even radiate down my legs; I had to go to physical therapy for it. When I was still with XWH (before DDay), I was experiencing:
constant back pain
headaches
lightheadedness
dizziness
plugged ears
lower abdominal pain
I was convinced that there was something seriously wrong with me; I saw my PCP, an ENT, my OB/GYN, and an NP at a gastroenterology practice. I had a lot of tests run, and nothing ever showed up.
When I finally left him, ALL of the head symptoms disappeared, and now the back pain/abdominal pain only comes back when I'm very stressed out. It's amazing the kind of power that the brain has over the body. Glad you're feeling better! 
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
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