For clarity: my date was just hanging out with a guy, nothing serious. I needed to get my mind off things and I am sick of thinking about all of this crap day in and day out. It's been 7 months of roller coaster and the papers are signed and should be through any day. It was the first time in 18 years I've been out with someone other than my STBX. It was a lot of fun and I do NOT regret it one bit!
ETA: I have always been really open with my kids...but I am realizing now that I will have to start censoring myself. I don't need any more drama going back and forth between the houses for them. :(
[This message edited by myperfectlife at 6:38 PM, November 9th (Saturday)]
hoovering bigger than any hoover in the history of hoovers.
Stay the course.
Become boring, use one-word responses.
Kids and finances only.
Interesting how consequences, not character create such change...
You're going out on a date & letting your kids know? Tsk tsk tsk, this is a horrible thing to do to your kids. Please don't do that again. Right? Think of what that does to a child's psyche.
I like your line about this being the biggest hoover in the history of hoovers. That's funny!
His actions concern me. Showing up at the laundr-o-mat? So he's following you? At your door at 1 am? It all sounds very stalkerish.
Be crystal clear about what you want and then follow through. Don't let this build any further.
"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana
You're going out on a date & letting your kids know?
I am asking people to check on him because he's the father of my children and I don't want him to do anything drastic.
I am not a cold hearted bitch who wants him to kill himself.
I heard from my son's girlfriend that he was sitting with OW at Cracker Barrel the other day.