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tiredofit (original poster member #26423) posted at 2:19 AM on Sunday, November 10th, 2013
Be with someone that you have a lot of chemistry but not many common interests or someone with less chemistry and a lot more common interests?
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phmh ( member #34146) posted at 3:07 AM on Sunday, November 10th, 2013
I'm holding out for chemistry and common interests.
However, in the hypothetical situation you describe, I'd rather be with someone who I have chemistry but not common interests, as long as we have common values.
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NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 3:19 AM on Sunday, November 10th, 2013
Why do I have to pick? Anyway, common interests can help boost chemistry. Sharing in fun experiences together can be great foreplay. 
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Ann124 ( member #29289) posted at 3:21 AM on Sunday, November 10th, 2013
I agree, Chemistry and not many common interests (but I would have to agree in having common values).
In fact having different or a lack of common interests brings much to a relationship as you can learn, grow and share those interests within the relationship.
peacelovetea ( member #26071) posted at 10:30 PM on Sunday, November 10th, 2013
I think its a balance thing, the common interests. I love meeting people who are into different things than I am, so that I can learn new stuff and be exposed to new things. But there needs to be enough in common to keep it going longer term-- chemistry is great but not enough. :)
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