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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Be with someone that you have a lot of chemistry but not many common interests or someone with less chemistry and a lot more common interests?

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Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm holding out for chemistry and common interests.

However, in the hypothetical situation you describe, I'd rather be with someone who I have chemistry but not common interests, as long as we have common values.

[This message edited by phmh at 9:07 PM, November 9th (Saturday)]

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Default  Posted: 9:19 PM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Why do I have to pick? Anyway, common interests can help boost chemistry. Sharing in fun experiences together can be great foreplay.

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Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, November 9th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree, Chemistry and not many common interests (but I would have to agree in having common values).

In fact having different or a lack of common interests brings much to a relationship as you can learn, grow and share those interests within the relationship.

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Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, November 10th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I think its a balance thing, the common interests. I love meeting people who are into different things than I am, so that I can learn new stuff and be exposed to new things. But there needs to be enough in common to keep it going longer term-- chemistry is great but not enough. :)

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