BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
I haven't read the books, but do watch the show.
I feel I would be disappointed by the books now that you have explained that in the books they aren't BFF's and that they aren't so.....girly. That is what I love about the show. The interactions, the BFF's, the girlyness of Maura trying to convert Jane over from her tomboyishness.
However, in general, I find that is true about most books. They are almost always better than any tv show or movie.
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson