Agree, catlover50. Although I know nothing about the football news, our society definitely puts pressure on men to be invulnerable, decisive, alpha.
I even see it in parenting advice (for both genders). You should let babies "cry it out" or they will never be independent. You should be hard on kids because "the real world" is waiting for them. Fierce competition is good for them. Toughen them up, etc.
My H was certainly exposed to the "real world" very early. Abuse, violence, neglect. It made him act like a "lone wolf" who could solve all his problems himself and didn't need anyone. But it was an act.
If you really want kids to grow into healthy, functional, empathetic adults who are capable of successful intimate relationships, then you give them tons of attention, nurturing, and kindness. The parent/child relationship teaches them how to have the honesty and emotional intelligence needed for a good friendship or marriage.
Maybe I am in the minority of American women, but when my H shows true vulnerability, it's one of the sexiest things ever. When a man is confident enough with who he is that he can open a window into his soul for you--that's not weakness. It's strength.
I do think the most effective thing we can do is raise our children differently. Then they can find each other and there will be no emotional damage, expectations or limiting boxes :) .