I asked for a few more details from WH. It's important for me to know, so I ask.
I knew he had his mouth between her legs, so this time I asked if they ever did "69" and he says yes. After "69", he would have "penetrative" genital sex versus getting a hand job or a BJ.
Then I ask if he ever washed his mustache after his mouth was *there*, before he came home and kissed me on the lips. He says yes, he washed his genitals and his hands and face, but didn't actually soap up his mustache, nor did he rinse out his mouth.
I asked him why he would do with her (often, over a 7 year period of time), that very thing that he didn't really like doing with me? He said she was "shaved" then corrected that to tell me she had a "runway" (i.e. landing strip).
Sarcasm from me--"Oh, so it's okay to do it with a slut because she has a landing strip!"
Then I ask "Do you think you were any good at it?" (i.e. cunnilingus) and he says she never said, but he figures he probably wasn't the best and probably wasn't the worst.
Sarcasm again from me: "I'll tell you right now that you certainly weren't the best." and then I add, "But oh, yeah, I almost forgot that you said you really enjoyed the sex and it was soooo good, and she sure was attractive!"
Sometimes, I just have to share by posting here, to share with others who understand.
Hope that having these answers helps you, it's so confusing trying to come to terms with it all, I hope you are doing OK.
Like you, the fact remains that my FWH did something that he found distasteful with a whore. I guess it's all about continuing the free BJ's even it means eating a tuna sandwich (which he detests) from time to time.
D-Day 6/1/16 Caught him back online early enough that no physical contact took place but still devastating. This sucks.
What a violation of us!
And these sluts think nothing of intruding into a family, & our WHs don't protect us from them, even tho they took a vow to do so.
The OW is savy enough to know, thanks to newsstand magazines, how to keep and treat a man so they are bonded. Escalating sexual acts every time they are together keeps the oxytocin running up and keeps that bond going. One thing I really do not understand is how unkept the OW was, yet so enticing. I naturally have very little hair down there and it is easy to keep under control. The OW evidently was very hairy, up the front, out the sides, and up the back. No landing strip, just the whole jungle. Yep, that beard had to go.
I tell people I am tired but really my heart is broken and I am sad.
I needed to know what they did so I could find something they did not do that I could use and keep for myself. Sadly and to my sorrow there is nothing he did not do with the OW. In 12 weeks they did every position and act, including toys.
I naturally have very little hair down there and it is easy to keep under control. I hear you, and am sparse as well, even on my arms/underarms and legs. I guess a landing strip was ever-so-exciting for him, and combined with his boner pills, he was Happy Hank for sure.
We used to say I love you, and the other would say I love you more. That's a bunch of crap now. When he says I love you --now only at night after we "talk"--I simply don't respond.
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