Ex is in Hawaii, and failed to tell anyone, me or the kids. He is supposed to inform me when he travels so I can find him if something goes wrong.
Well, I guess it is on his FB page and someone said something to me (with kids in earshot) of his Hawaii vacay.
My 10 year was…angry. ANGRY that ex didn't tell her he was going. "So, I guess we wouldn't find out? Why wouldn't he tell us?? I want to go to Hawaii!!"
I answered the best I could, the usual: You need to ask your Dad.
She then said, "He is just a selfish person. Selfish for not telling us he was gay, selfish for leaving you and leaving us!"
My 8 year old starts crying and clinging to me, then says "If I had to choose, I always want to live with you!!!"
Ugg. All of this because he doesn't see the point of telling the kids the truth. He calls them every night and talks for 2 minutes. He has been in Hawaii for a week, and never told them.
I told dd that ex loves her the best way he can, I don't agree with his choices either, but all we can do is move on and live the best life we can. I am happy that he is in her life.
When he called, she confronted him. I was proud of her, (and I stayed out of it). I'm guessing he will take this out on me soon.
Everyone told me that the day would come that they will connect the dots. IC said early teen years. I am amazed at her, and feel terrible all at the same time.
She feels like her Dad was selfish and left her. Poor littlecmego, I hate this life lesson.