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khrisdeus posted 11/11/2013 09:16 AM

I'm trying so hard to cope with this. She's the one who did this. The one who wanted a divorce. But things just keep getting uglier and uglier. She's lying to my boss to try to get me fired now. All because she went off with OM, and I refused to be her emotional and financial support until she was able to get stable enough for an amicable divorce. I'm now the bad guy because I hired an attorney and filed. It doesn't make sense..... she even refuses to leave the home. I can't have space from her, despite her wanting out of the marriage?

thebighurt posted 11/11/2013 09:52 AM

I'm so sorry. It's hard enough dealing with this shit but then they have to pull more shit. It's never enough for someone like her and xpos. Xpos still pulling stuff and we've been D for more than 1-1/2 yrs! It's like they will never be happy unless they can feel like they have totally destroyed us. Anything to feel like they have the upper hand. Has she always been controlling of you and the relationship?

Hang in there, brother. You've got understanding and support here..

careerlady posted 11/11/2013 11:29 AM

They get so caught up in creating a narrative to justify their cheating that they buy into it and have the nerve to get angry at us. It's really unbelievable gall. But you will pull through this, we all will. Just keep reminding yourself that she's a sick controlling cake eater like the rest of them

IrishLass518 posted 11/11/2013 11:56 AM

I find that they create this mess, blame us for it and then push the buttons they installed in order for us to react so they can say "See? Crazy. Therefore I was justified". It is how they can spin it to make themselves look and feel better about the wrong they know they have done.

khrisdeus posted 11/11/2013 16:32 PM

Despite everything, it's getting harder and harder to maintain no communication with her. Being off work today it's taken conscious effort to not reach out to her as my best friend for the last 9 years.

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