I'm so sorry. It's hard enough dealing with this shit but then they have to pull more shit. It's never enough for someone like her and xpos. Xpos still pulling stuff and we've been D for more than 1-1/2 yrs! It's like they will never be happy unless they can feel like they have totally destroyed us. Anything to feel like they have the upper hand. Has she always been controlling of you and the relationship?
Hang in there, brother. You've got understanding and support here..