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nowiknow23 posted 11/11/2013 11:59 AM

Today marks 4 weeks since Mom's feedings were withdrawn. She is weak, tired, and not very responsive. Today the hospice nurse talked with my Dad, and he decided that it's time to stop giving her water, which has been prolonging the inevitable.

Dad is wrecked at having to make yet another choice that speeds up her passing. All nine of us kids and all seven of Mom's siblings support the decision. I don't think that's much comfort to Dad, however.

It has been a torturous month for everyone, wanting Mom to be at peace, jumping at each ring of the phone, trying to carry on with everyday life while our hearts and minds are in that room day in and day out. It's has been exhausting and painful and yet beautiful all at once.

If you could, please hold my Mom and Dad in your thoughts. Send him comfort during these last hours and send her peace for her journey. Thank you in advance.

okaynow posted 11/11/2013 12:04 PM

(((NIK))) Prayers sent for you, your mom, dad, and whole family.

MovingUpward posted 11/11/2013 12:04 PM

(((NIK and NIK's Mom and Dad)))

They will be in my thoughts

ISPIFFD posted 11/11/2013 12:05 PM

I'm so sorry you and your dad and your whole family are going through the prolonged sadness of this situation. We went through it with Mom years ago, and I went through it with Dad last year. Sending you and your family all the best and most peaceful thoughts.

authenticnow posted 11/11/2013 12:06 PM

(((NIK and Family)))

Your family has been in my thoughts this whole time. I will continue sending prayers for peace for all of you.

woundedby2 posted 11/11/2013 12:36 PM

Continued prayers. (((NIK)))

tushnurse posted 11/11/2013 12:38 PM

(((NIK, Dad and family))))

Find peace and strength in each other, and know that you are going to be a source of reassurance and strength for your dad.

May she just go to sleep.

((((and peace))))

JKL Vikings posted 11/11/2013 12:50 PM

((((NIK and Family))))

lost_in_toronto posted 11/11/2013 12:55 PM

((NIK and family))

I'm sorry your father, and your family, are facing such heartbreaking choices. Wishing you all peace in the coming days.

hardtimesinlife posted 11/11/2013 13:11 PM

Those are the hardest decisions to make because the guilt on top of grief is so difficult, no matter how many people tell you it is for the best.
Prayers to your family.
(((nik)))

ThoughtIKnewYa posted 11/11/2013 13:14 PM

(((nik and family)))

Jrazz posted 11/11/2013 13:18 PM

Sending good thoughts and love and comfort.

(((NIK)))

Aubrie posted 11/11/2013 13:19 PM

(((((NIK))))))

Lifting you all in prayers.

metamorphisis posted 11/11/2013 13:39 PM

Sending you and your family love NIK.

still2suspicious posted 11/11/2013 13:40 PM

Just went thru this with my aunt.

Sending all the comfort prayers can give.

(((NIK and family)))

jo2love posted 11/11/2013 13:51 PM

((((Nik and family))))

Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

sisoon posted 11/11/2013 13:53 PM

Thank you for the update. Count me in.

(((NIK & family)))

Deeply Scared posted 11/11/2013 13:59 PM

(((NIK & family)))

Holding you close and sending you peaceful thoughts...I'm so very sorry

deeplysad posted 11/11/2013 14:10 PM

((((NIK and Family))))

itainteasy posted 11/11/2013 14:28 PM

(((NIK and family)))