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Hisbunnyonly posted 11/11/2013 12:13 PM

i HATE when he creeps up into my dreams!!!! (BH knows, i told him first thing this morning, but we were not really about to discuss it as i was having to leave for work)
It was not a sexual dream.... it was a dream that i still had his number in my phone and that some girl (who was apparently my best friend but i do not recognize her as anyone i have ever even met) had my phone and was reading old convo's between us and someone else text me, she went to reply for me and accidently text OM instead of the person who text me. he replied back with "why the hell are you texting me" and i told her not to reply. i went outside to smoke a cigarette and he was standing on my front porch. yelling at me about texting him and then telling me he missed me. i woke up about this point......

i have posted about my dreams before and been told by many that they are not controlable.... but UGHHHHH I JUST FREAKING HATE THEM!!!!!!

Aubrie posted 11/11/2013 12:54 PM

Ah yes, the dreams. One of the lousy side effects of our actions. They like to sneak up and slap you around. It gets better with time. If I dream of my AP, it's very rare and usually bizarre and pointless.

Alyssamd24 posted 11/11/2013 18:07 PM

I understand how you feel. ..I had a dream about my xap last week and it left me feel angry and icky. I haven't dreamt about him in a long time and don't understand why I suddenly did....people have also told me its uncontrollable and I hope they are right! I also told my bh about the dream and he didn't say to much...but then the next morning asked me if I had dreamt about him again cuz I had been talking in my sleep

trying2live posted 11/11/2013 20:06 PM

Ugh, I know how you feel. Those dreams just make you feel more guilt and more shame. Even if the dream was innocent, you still feel that anger. I promise those dreams will fade.

Hisbunnyonly posted 11/11/2013 21:06 PM

Glad to know I'm not alone.

When I got home BS asked me to explain the dream in detail which I had no problem with, and then didn't say much else. You are right, it left me feeling pissed (at myself and him) and icky even though it wasn't a sexual dream. THOSE thank god went away after the first couple of months and knock on wood they haven't returned.