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Running the Race posted 11/11/2013 12:31 PM

Anyone else think the dating scene is over rated? Or for that matter, the party scene as well?
I've gone out twice, and the women were nice, but it just doesn't seem like the excitement or fit is there. I may have not been that exciting to them as well....
The club or bar scene seems to be full of shallowness, emptiness.

I've found small joys in running, working out, church. But not the type to fill the void from the divorce. Sometimes I wonder if there is anyone out there I can find better than my exw.

I know that I am in search of myself. I am in charge of my own happiness. But someday I'd like to meet someone new.
In the past, when I have run into someone who seems interesting, generally, they are already in a relationship (and I refuse to be that other guy).
Any feel this way? Or is the dating scene better for others?

pregnantandsad posted 11/11/2013 15:58 PM

I have not tried dating yet, but I can't imagine liking it very much. I never liked dating before I was married. I have looked on online dating sites out of curiosity and they kind of scared me, lol. Bars and clubs are not a place I can see myself interested in meeting a guy. I hope as time goes by and I get further along in this process, dating won't seem some scary and maybe I will enjoy it.

numbandnauseous posted 11/11/2013 16:54 PM

Running - hugs to you.

First, PLEASE, PLEASE get out of your mind that you will not find anyone better than your exw!!!!!! Although you may not feel it now, being alone is much better than being in an emotionally unsafe M.

You are new to the dating scene - give it time. These feelings will pass. Also, maybe instead of the bar scene, have you thought of joining a running club or other hobby club? That way, you would meet others with similar interests.

Others with more experience will be along with more advice. Have you checked out the New Beginnings thread? Lots of info on dating over there.

Let us know how it goes.

Merlin posted 11/11/2013 17:09 PM

After being married for nearly 25 years, the idea of dating and mixers is sort of weird.

A lot of what you experience is not much different than when you were dating before you married. A lot is also very different. No one gets to adulthood without carrying some 'baggage'. And dating now will be something of a dance to determine is you, your date and your respective pasts can mesh.

I love women, always have. And, I kept to myself as a married man should and because I wanted to.

So I do go out. And it is sometimes strange. I also spend a lot of time alone and with guy friends.

You'll figure all this out as you go. Maybe you want a woman's company, maybe you don't. You need not push it.

damncutekitty posted 11/11/2013 18:03 PM

It gets easier once you have had some time to heal.

Thefly559 posted 11/11/2013 20:44 PM

I tried dating a couple of times. I agree. I hated the dating scene as a kid and I hate it even more now! I was with her for 18 yrs. since high school. I still found myself doing what it sounds like you are , which is comparing! The dates went ok, but I would suggest to you not to date till you are ready. I had to try and still do , because I love woman and I can't take the fact that my stbxww has a boyfriend as I stay home and cry. Good luck brother.

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