Anyways I met him a week ago, he seems a very nice person, we chatted over an hour, he was a bit nervous, so am I. We have been texting a bit after that. I sent him an email saying I enjoyed it.
Last night we had the second date, again we chatted for 1.5 hours, turn out his wife walked away from him 18 years ago, he has been raising his two children by himself. Because of ir he is very close to his children, both are adults now and moved out.
He mentioned that he won't be on OLD any more, he did deleted his profile. It is nice to see him ver serious, kind of cute, he was too shy to ask me out for a hockey game, he texted me last night, I replied " I would love to", then he asked me to go to his company Christmas Party, I love to go out and have some fun, plus he seems a nice gentleman.
But same time I felt it is a bit too much too soon. Like everyone said I should not start to date this early. I totally agree. I will take baby steps. But I do enjoy the company, the attention.
By no means I am not ready to sleep with him, I am very conservative that way. If he leaves, that is fine.
Love his blue eyes...hehe...
It is good to feel in control and see where this going......I might go to his Xmas party too.
Will keep posting some updates here....
Wiser ones will be along soon, but I do feel that he is getting pretty intense quickly. Deleting his OLD profile? Inviting you to his work Christmas party whiich is many weeks away?
At the same time, I am very happy for you, but it sounds like you need to slow him down a little.
The cruel, the unkind, those without honor, feast on the tender heart...
He told me he cleaned his car today inside out for the trip, which is nice of him.
He is very nice and very polite gentleman, we have been talking/ texting a lot lately.
He is those too nice kind of guy, so afraid to upset me, he even texted me asking me if okay to hold my hands when we are going to do a bit hike, it is cute/silly i think, I had a good laugh at it, but I told him we will see... Still a bit too much, too soon, but do like the genuine side of him.
I am looking forward to spending more time with him and getting to know him, enjoying his company tomorrow.
I am definitely going to start dating after my one year antiversary in January.
I'm not looking for anything serious, just looking forward to going for dinner with a nice guy (hopefully!) and have some nice conversation. Who knows what will happen.
Good luck! :)
Had more coffee dates, he texted me every day.
He has a decent job, own a very cute/cozy little place, last night we also went to his company Xmas dinner. He was so happy I went with him.
We also talked about more detailed how his X left him with two children and he had been single for 12 years raising two kids.
I enjoyed spending time with him, he is a gentleman, very serious about us, but I do felt he is very insecure and talked about a lot about "our" future. Which I am not ready for that yet.
I do not want to hurt him but do felt a bit pressure if it does not work out in the end.
Or i really do not know what I want??!!
So the message to you (and me) is to have fun, and open. It is hard for those of us that have gone through infidelity in our pasts, but openness is important. Also here is a ted talk that I found helpful in thinking about what I want in the future.
Dec 23, 2010
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