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jemimapd posted 11/11/2013 15:44 PM

Well, I am a bit shocked because I had convinced myself that my diagnostic mammogram and ultrasound would show the lump found by the routine mammogram to be a fluid filled cyst (of which I have had 3).

I went to the hospital first thing this morning expecting to get the usual all-clear.

No, they dont knkw what it is. So now I have to get a biopsy. I had just set myself up for it to be nothing.

I think it is all OK. It is well-defined, good acoustics, but it is a lump with a blood supply. The doctor said he thought it was probably but not definitely OK.

I just feel really tearful. My doctor's office has had all day to send the order for the biopsy and hasn't sent it so I can't even schedule it. I'm so miserable with this in house separation which has another 2 weeks until the final hearing. I haven't told STBX and of course he forgot about my appt which just shows me what a selfish jerk I have been married to the last ten years. I did go and have lunch with a friend who has offered to come with me.

It just feels like the worst possible timing.

nutmegkitty posted 11/11/2013 15:48 PM

(((jemimapd)))

nowiknow23 posted 11/11/2013 16:00 PM

((((jemima)))) Sending you strength, honey. And tons of mojo for a clean biopsy.

suckstobeme posted 11/11/2013 16:01 PM

((((((((massive hugs)))))))))

HeartInADustpan posted 11/11/2013 16:11 PM

We're all cheering you on. Hang in there. (((HUGE HUGS)))

numbandnauseous posted 11/11/2013 16:48 PM

jemima, honey, I am so sorry. You have a lot on your plate. Be gentle with yourself today. Can you get out of the house and do something just for yourself? Mani/pedi/massage, brisk walk or at least schedule something if you can't do it today?

I am so sorry, jemima. We are all here for you sending good mojo for everything to turn out ok. Keep posting.

(((((((jemima)))))))

Tripletrouble posted 11/11/2013 17:01 PM

So sorry to hear this. Not that it's ever a good time, but this is REALLY a bad time. My heart goes out to you. Big hugs Jemima.

Williesmom posted 11/11/2013 17:36 PM

((Jemima))

still2suspicious posted 11/11/2013 17:42 PM

(((jemimapd)))

Sending prayers your way.

LifeIsBroken posted 11/11/2013 17:54 PM

Think positive and know - KNOW - you can deal with it if it does turn out to be something that needs further attention. You've already had more on your plate than most and you have survived it.... I have taken one of my best friends 2x for biopsies (her H was working out of state both times) and both turned out to be nothing. Sending you hugs and lots of strength....

(Your PM's are at their limit, just fyi)

Iamhappytoday posted 11/11/2013 18:07 PM

(((jemimapd)))

This happened to me the same week as D-day. Sending you good mojo and strength.

gardens64 posted 11/11/2013 18:39 PM

Hi Jemimapd, I am so sorry to hear about your situation. I'm undergoing in-house separation too and it's so hard to deal with health concerns on top of all this mess. Sending support and good mojo your way. I'm glad you have a friend that is supporting you as well.

sri624 posted 11/11/2013 18:46 PM

i just wanted to send you all kinds of hugs and blessings. you have friends here surrounding you with support.

tushnurse posted 11/11/2013 18:49 PM

Oh sweetie. Take some deep breaths be nice to you. The not knowing is the hardest part, but this is out of your control.
Get it scheduled tomorrow, know that it didn't just show up overnight and waiting a few days to weeks is not going to change the outcome. Rely on friends and family.

Know no matter what this is you are strong and capable. You will be mOre than able to kick its ass and take names. After all you survived in house separation.

authenticnow posted 11/11/2013 18:49 PM

(((jemimapd)))

dmari posted 11/11/2013 18:55 PM

shit. I am so sorry jemimapd. dammit. Please take your friends offer and have her go with you. You will be in my prayers.

jemimapd posted 11/11/2013 18:58 PM

The not knowing is the hardest part, but this is out of your control.

I feel my life is suspended. Yes, I am mentally preparing for a week of not knowing and just deciding that it is going to be OK.

It shows me the extent to which I am without a husband and at the same time that I am OK with that - because the last time I was in the hospital two years ago, STBX was outside calling OW and then fucked off to see her in the afternoon. At least I know what is the truth today. I am in the same house with him but mentally and emotionally I am divorced from him. I cannot rely on him but today I know that.

When I came out of the office today there was an elderly couple sitting together waiting which made me feel a bit sorry for myself, but who knows what their real story is.

This site really is something special. It means a lot to me right now. Thank you.

Vulcanized posted 11/11/2013 19:03 PM

(((jemima)))

I hope it is nothing. I'm glad you have your friend for support. You have us here, too.

BrokenRoad posted 11/11/2013 19:15 PM

(((jemimapd)))
I had this happen to me. They ended up just removing it instead of the biopsy when they went in. And it still turned out to be benign. It can still be totally okay.

HUGS!
BR

jemimapd posted 11/11/2013 19:19 PM

BR, what was it? The doctor went through the possibilities but of course I wasn't really taking it in.

]Your PM's are at their limit, just fyi)

Thank you! Deleted oldies.

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