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Topic: I'm being a big baby

rachelc
♀ 30314
Member # 30314

Posted: 2:42 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013

Since the ddays there has been a photo of each of the OW, dressed to the nines in her best, in the newspaper. This REALLY bothered me, it sunk me..
It made me feel so insecure and unimportant.

The newspaper took a picture of us at an event the other night. It was one I was proud of how I looked and I thought it was maybe my turn.

So then it’s not included but I turn to the sports section and there is OW#1’s son, winning an award.

I feel crushed. But I know logically, I shouldn't care. I have way too much invested in something, not sure what....

his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.”

Posts: 6062 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest

LA44
♀ 38384
Member # 38384

Posted: 3:01 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013

Newspaper or not, I bet you looked beautiful rachelc! Now stop sucking your thumb!

Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2803 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh

Rebreather
♀ 30817
Member # 30817

Posted: 3:05 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013

At our house we call this "having poop in your pants." LOl Cause we klassy and all that.

Now buck up and go change yer drawers cause those women are *expletive deleted in respect of the R forum guidelines* and not worth a moment more of your time.

Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6768 | Registered: Jan 2011

LA44
♀ 38384
Member # 38384

Posted: 3:22 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013

Klassy Rebreather, you crack me up! Did she make you laugh, rachelc?

Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2803 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh

rachelc
♀ 30314
Member # 30314

Posted: 3:26 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013

yes, she did!

But I think its reasonable to trigger over this.
I want to solve this as a team.

his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.”

Posts: 6062 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest

Lucky
♀ 6864
Member # 6864

Posted: 3:38 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013

Call the newspaper and request and purchase a copy of the photo. Frame it and put it somewhere prominent in your home!!

♥ WINE - the other fruit juice! ♥

Posts: 36162 | Registered: Apr 2005

Swims
♀ 30992
Member # 30992

Posted: 3:38 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013

Rachelc, it sounds like you need a dose of "honey, they always affair down". Hugs to you!

Posts: 159 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: East Coast

rachelc
♀ 30314
Member # 30314

Posted: 3:53 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013

Call the newspaper and request and purchase a copy of the photo. Frame it and put it somewhere prominent in your home!!

I will! And it's now my FB Profile Pic!

his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.”

Posts: 6062 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest

Lucky
♀ 6864
Member # 6864

Posted: 4:01 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013

I will! And it's now my FB Profile Pic!

YAY YOU!!!

♥ WINE - the other fruit juice! ♥

Posts: 36162 | Registered: Apr 2005

rachelc
♀ 30314
Member # 30314

Posted: 7:45 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013

Well according to MC I should pray for the OW when I'm triggered. Got nothing to lose, I guess..,,

his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.”

Posts: 6062 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest

sisoon
♂ 31240
Member # 31240

Posted: 9:27 AM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013

I pray ow heals enough never to eff up anybody (mainly us) again and to leave us alone forever. I say that prayer to myself whenever I notice myself wishing her harm....

I just realized the prayer gets her out of my head...it really is a good idea, at least for me.

fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10922 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area

OldCow18
♀ 39670
Member # 39670

Posted: 11:09 AM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013

Glad you got the pic, and OMG, so sorry you have to see a constant reminder of her and her family in the newspaper, wtf?

Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13

Posts: 620 | Registered: Jun 2013

LA44
♀ 38384
Member # 38384

Posted: 12:08 PM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013

I am glad you got the pic of you looking fab!

Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2803 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh

tushnurse
♀ 21101
Member # 21101

Posted: 1:42 PM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013

OOOH I have a better idea, call and request the pics of the two OW's that have been in the paper. Get them and have a cathartic, ceremonious destruction party. Have H piss on them, you light them on fire, throw the ashes to the wind, after you thoroughly stomp them to bits. Exorcise those demons. Literally and figuratively.

Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 9032 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis

rachelc
♀ 30314
Member # 30314

Posted: 1:56 PM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013

notta bad idea tush!!!

his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.”

Posts: 6062 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest

bionicgal
♀ 39803
Member # 39803

Posted: 2:17 PM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013

Ya'll make me laugh!

me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.

Posts: 2315 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: USA

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