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rachelc (original poster member #30314) posted at 8:42 PM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
Since the ddays there has been a photo of each of the OW, dressed to the nines in her best, in the newspaper. This REALLY bothered me, it sunk me..
It made me feel so insecure and unimportant.
The newspaper took a picture of us at an event the other night. It was one I was proud of how I looked and I thought it was maybe my turn.
So then it’s not included but I turn to the sports section and there is OW#1’s son, winning an award.
I feel crushed. But I know logically, I shouldn't care. I have way too much invested in something, not sure what....
LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 9:01 PM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
Newspaper or not, I bet you looked beautiful rachelc! Now stop sucking your thumb!
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
Rebreather ( member #30817) posted at 9:05 PM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
At our house we call this "having poop in your pants." LOl Cause we klassy and all that.
Now buck up and go change yer drawers cause those women are *expletive deleted in respect of the R forum guidelines* and not worth a moment more of your time.
Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Rec'd.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi
LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 9:22 PM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
Klassy Rebreather, you crack me up! Did she make you laugh, rachelc?
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
rachelc (original poster member #30314) posted at 9:26 PM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
yes, she did!
But I think its reasonable to trigger over this.
I want to solve this as a team.
Lucky ( member #6864) posted at 9:38 PM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
Call the newspaper and request and purchase a copy of the photo. Frame it and put it somewhere prominent in your home!!
♥ WINE - the other fruit juice! ♥
Swims ( member #30992) posted at 9:38 PM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
Rachelc, it sounds like you need a dose of "honey, they always affair down". Hugs to you!
rachelc (original poster member #30314) posted at 9:53 PM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
Call the newspaper and request and purchase a copy of the photo. Frame it and put it somewhere prominent in your home!!
I will! And it's now my FB Profile Pic!
Lucky ( member #6864) posted at 10:01 PM on Tuesday, November 12th, 2013
I will! And it's now my FB Profile Pic!
YAY YOU!!! 
♥ WINE - the other fruit juice! ♥
rachelc (original poster member #30314) posted at 1:45 AM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
Well according to MC I should pray for the OW when I'm triggered. Got nothing to lose, I guess..,,
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 3:27 PM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
I pray ow heals enough never to eff up anybody (mainly us) again and to leave us alone forever. I say that prayer to myself whenever I notice myself wishing her harm....
I just realized the prayer gets her out of my head...it really is a good idea, at least for me.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
OldCow18 ( member #39670) posted at 5:09 PM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
Glad you got the pic, and OMG, so sorry you have to see a constant reminder of her and her family in the newspaper, wtf?
Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13
LA44 ( member #38384) posted at 6:08 PM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
I am glad you got the pic of you looking fab! 
Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 7:42 PM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
OOOH I have a better idea, call and request the pics of the two OW's that have been in the paper. Get them and have a cathartic, ceremonious destruction party. Have H piss on them, you light them on fire, throw the ashes to the wind, after you thoroughly stomp them to bits. Exorcise those demons. Literally and figuratively.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
rachelc (original poster member #30314) posted at 7:56 PM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
bionicgal ( member #39803) posted at 8:17 PM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013
me - BS (45) - DDay - June 2013
A was 2+ months, EA/PA
In MC & Reconciling
"Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point to move forward." -- C.S. Lewis.
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