[This message edited by notwarmorfuzzy at 6:02 PM, November 12th (Tuesday)]
Are they actually dating or did they just go out? Either way, the more you react, the more it will encourage him. It sounds like one of those situations where you have to fake it to make it.
"I'm very happy for you."
I know it's hard but if you can try to seem unaffected, it will be easier and cause less drama in the long-run. The less you find out, the less it will hurt.
That said, it doesn't sound like she's an OW? But I know I sure wouldn't date my boss's x...too, too weird.
Deep breaths and stick to the high road. A well placed, knowing smile and a simple, "Isn't that wonderful?" (If it even comes up) will convey a pretty big, classy 'fuck you.'
Remember, you are the boss and you are above it.
Fuck them both.
I think he's getting a kick out if it.
ETA: Hit submit too soon. You can do this, honey. Don't feed the bear. Ignore. Ignore. Ignore.
[This message edited by nowiknow23 at 7:54 PM, November 12th (Tuesday)]
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl
The thing is, the more noise you make or the more emotion you show, the more of a kick X may get out of it.
In my situation, X enjoys greatly flaunting little tidbits about OW at me and I pretend I am dumb and deaf and don't hear him. I put on the straightest face I can, hold my head high and act very disinterested. It's not easy but is the higher road and feels better in the end.
Anything you say or do could be used against you and be ammo for X.
The high road, the high road, the high road...
You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.