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User Topic: Day of Reckoning - Train Wrecks everywhere
fraeuken
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Member # 30742
Default  Posted: 6:30 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a blissful few days it has been watching the train wrecks who are my exes crash and burn around me.

First, I went to church on Sunday and faced xSO and old/new/on/off again girlfriend. What a joyous couple! As soon as he realized I was there, he stepped away from her. When he sat next to her he leaned as far away from her as he could and never once touched her and ignored her attempt to hold hands during prayer. He looked old and tired, never smiled, no sparkle in his eyes. Now, when we were together, we always connected physically some way, either by holding hands, his arm around my shoulder or my hand on his back and he would talk and joke with everybody. None of that now, he held his head down and was out of that church as if the devil was chasing him .

Then, after church I stayed and talked a little and one of our joined acquaintances came up to me, hugged me, told me how happy she was to see me back at church and then, nodding his direction, said: "xSo is very unhappy. He told me he made a huge mistake letting you go. Just watch it, they will break up soon and then he has no place left to go. He knows he threw away the last love of his life and he regrets it bitterly."


About 24 hours later I receive a call from XH's uncle. XH had visited him back in the Midwest for a hunting trip. Well, guess what, XH confided in uncle that he is not happy, that he is in a very bad spot, that he made all the wrong choices, that he now is intertwined with OW financially (bought a super-expensive lot and is building, total worth about 1.7 million US$) and is stuck in the situation. Yet another joyous couple with a wonderful future ahead.....

Ding, ding, ding, we have 2 winners.

Now, hearing this stuff does not make it easier; it does not take away the pain over the loss of my family, it does not ease the loneliness at times, it does not help me rebuild my self esteem faster.

But it did somehow close those chapters for me. So when I ran into xSO at the grocery store today (and was lucky enough to be all dolled up in nice black pants, high heels, cute white blouse and black short coat with my hair and make up done because I was coming from an important customer meeting) I could flash a big smile and happy face and say "Hello, how are you?" in passing and not let it affect me any longer. Cant' wait to do the same to xH when he picks up the kids tomorrow


Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1260 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 10:05 PM, November 12th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

fraeuken for the win!


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


Posts: 26122 | Registered: Aug 2011
259
♀ 22860
Member # 22860
Default  Posted: 2:38 AM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

love it :)


Me = FBS
Him = gone


things that happen in my life do not define who I am. I get to choose to be the best I can be, for me. cause I'm worth it.


Posts: 286 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: my happy place (most of the time)
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 2:59 AM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Day of "Wreckoning", anyone? (Sorry, couldn't resist)

I'm really glad you got some closure.

(((fraeuken)))


"Sometimes people are mean, and sometimes things will be hard. One of your jobs is to try and make sure that that never makes you mean and hard, too." Cord Jefferson's Mom

Posts: 18276 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Bebba1171
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Member # 33857
Default  Posted: 7:40 AM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow - double whammy!


Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 52 (Me) / XWW 50 - ages back in 2011
Two great kids that don't deserve this!

Posts: 727 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: USA
StillLivin
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Member # 40229
Default  Posted: 1:40 PM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

ding ding ding, we have a double winner folks!!!

You are right, it doesn't add to your life in any way, but it does warm the cockels and put a smile in your step!

Waiting for my joyous trainwreck. I see it on the horizon though.


I don't need further confirmation of what a fuckwit he is. I already have plenty, thanks very much. -SBB
D: 7/2/2014

Posts: 2498 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: AZ
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, November 13th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

HA HA HA!!!!!

This is awesome! I hope I get to witness the karma 1st hand! I'm gonna get butter on my popcorn and everything!


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
LearningToRun
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Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, November 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sweet consequences. Fleeting, i'm sure as they will probably bounce back. So its good that you see it as separate from yourself and your happiness.

Funny people call as if it is still your problem.

Keep moving forward thankful that these men freed you. :)


Posts: 312 | Registered: Feb 2011
PhoenixRising88
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Default  Posted: 3:36 PM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like a true life example of "the best revenge is a life well lived'. Love it!


Me: BS (43)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(50)
D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/2013.

Divorce final 2/10/14.

Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.


Posts: 434 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: North Texas
Dawn58
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Member # 37656
Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, November 21st (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ditto on a good life lived is the best revenge.

My STBX will have his train wreck when we get to mediation and he has to depart with some of his money. I have been told the only place to hurt him, is in the wallet.


I got into the marriage, because I loved him. I got out of the marriage, because I love me.

Posts: 487 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Southern California
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