And the story he tells to explain the fact that he had a 7 year affair ending in a bastard child is that he begged me for years to have a baby with him and i "wasn't ready", and then it was "too late" (ie I was too old). The real story is that I told him I wasn't ready until around '03, then BEGGED him to have a child with me until around '08,when he FINALLY agreed to try...but of course he had that "one last fling" that caused her pregnancy and the end of our relationship.
and the reason he never wanted to have sex, or insisted that we use birth control on the rare occasions we did, was that he was deeply involved in his affair--in which, btw, he never used birth control.
Am I right to correct the story when told to my friends and family, or should i laugh it off, or refuse to comment? It really pisses me off that he's trying to make it OK that he screwed around and got his whore pregnant, and is telling people that it was somehow my fault. As if.
This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet
Its all projection. Annoying as hell but I've found the people that share it with me don't actually believe him and are telling me so that I am aware of his lies.
Y'know what's weird? This is part of their false construct. they tell themselves these lies so much they actually start believing it.
So he tells everyone that I just didn't want to move with him (yeah, that's it....I didn't want to live in a condo on the beach and not have to work while my husband was making six figures...who would want THAT type of life?)
So, yeah, when people say something to me that is untrue, I fix it. I don't go on and on and I don't make a big deal of it....I just change the misconception.
It sucked for me for what seemed an eturnity. Most everyone thought it was my fault, didn't believe what she did...and I'm a man so it had to be all my fault. I knew what the truth was and knew it would come out in time.
Now I have people say, "why didn't you defend yourself?". I tell them I don't have to, I'm the same person I've always been.
I had no reason to tear someone else down to make me look better, isn't that what most of this BS is all about?
Good people are good people. Can't change the core.
I would say something like "(LOL) So THAT'S this week's version!"
Smart people will get it.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling