I guess I had a little practice so far, with a big family wedding on the same date as my birthday. I made sure I put earplugs in when there were words spoken to we who gathered, and when the vows were exchanged. I could still hear a bit, so I hummed to myself and that blocked my hearing even more.
I got through the wedding and reception with medication and some wine, too.
I had announced earlier, just after DDay#1 that we were not celebrating his birthday and on TT DDay #2 I said we're not celebrating my birthday or any holidays.
I told him many times that any time we are out with friends, or with family, or at an "occasion", anything he saw from me like smiles and laughter was PRETEND. I WAS PRETENDING, and he should not think everything was back to being fine again just because he saw me behaving "light hearted."
For getting through the holidays, helping other people is a good idea and I know a few folks who serve meals at the downtown soup kitchen as their tradition of giving back.
Christmas music etc can do me in. Sweet commercials on TV can slay me, too--I change the channel! You might want to use or borrow an iPod and use the earbuds when you're in Target etc.
We'll be with friends on Thanksgiving and family on Christmas, so I'm going to be medicated and focus on visiting with my friends and family, and catching up on things, all the while lying to them that everything is fine (I have not disclosed to any friend or family member except my sister). My friends and family don't know my heartbreak, I don't have to disclose anything. I'll be with WH at these events, whom I will ignore, as usual.