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Re-writing the marriage

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 Trying33 (original poster member #38815) posted at 11:24 AM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013

It has occurred to me lately that the whole concept of re-writing the marriage is a very true one and has been for me. This could also be the same as being negative and having a bad attitude towards the marriage, which is how my H puts it.

I think a large part of the re-writing is to justify my actions and I believe this has all been happening at a subconscious level. I was not even aware that this is what I may have been doing, but I am aware that when I looked back at my marriage, ONLY, negative things were coming to mind.

My H would try to point out the good stuff but I would counteract it with the things that have hurt me. He would follow with "it's just because you're in a negative frame of mind right now". I'm glad to say, this is slowly lifting and I have been recalling some fond memories of when I've been happy with my life. I've been sharing these with my H and it's been a nice way to make him smile.

My H is super patient and still doesn't talk much about his feelings, but today I'm feeling hopeful that things may change in the future, especially if I continue with my positive thinking, which I know my H needs right now.

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authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 11:33 AM on Wednesday, November 13th, 2013

Trying,

Great insight! I did the same thing.

It's amazing what a change of perspective can do. Good for you for being self aware and making positive changes!

AN

DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.

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