One of the ongoing issues between my wh and I is his lack of responsibility. I ask him to do something, he will 'forget' and me and the kids invariably end up being worse off for it.
For example, i ask him to leave his car and walk to work whilst mine is in the garage. He 'forgets' i then end up with a call from school wanting me to pick up a sick child and I can't get there. One time our tyre had a puncture. He put the spare on but didn't sort a new tyre. Another tyre gets a puncture, we have no spare. Fortunately he took the kids to school that day (a rare thing) so for once he had to sort the consequences of his lack of actions , but these are typical examples.
He is currently away with work. He's in the middle of kenya with no comms to home (he's in the british army). He is due to leave the army next year and is booked on a 5 week course in January which is part of his resettlement package to help him gain a new career when he leaves. He receives an email today saying he needs to pay the out standing balance on the course by the end of the month or he will lose his place. Obviously he cannot do this as he is not in the country and will not be back before the deadline.
I cannot pay with his card as it's his card and the payment has to be made over the phone, i am not authorised to use it or a joint name on his account. I could pay with my card and transfer money from our savings.
The question is, do i? I am sick of picking up the pieces where he can't be bothered. He had two emails a month before he left for Kenya asking him to pay and he just hasn't bothered. Not going could impact his future career which will impact on me and the kids. The course has 3 elements to it. He may not get on another course although i believe he could probably do the 3 elements in 3 separate courses. Do i save his arse AGAIN and pay or let him lose the place and learn the hard way?
I am sick of being responsible for him and if i keep 'saving' him surely he will never learn? But then if i don't step in, me and the kids often suffer too
[This message edited by HormonalWoman at 1:48 PM, November 13th (Wednesday)]