At the same time he does not talk to his lawyer and my lawyer had to call his lawyer to setup a meeting. My L said his L is less than happy to work on the case because "she's busy".
My L did setup a meeting in 3 weeks, but my L has to put the balance sheet together, making ME pay for that, while my SAWH is in fantasyland playing disney dad.
I have called him, texted and emailed him about the settlement meeting. He says he does not know anything about it. He is in DENIAL about the divorce!!!
My sister said he's trying to manipulate me by wearing his wedding ring.
It sounds like he needs some boundaries.
For a time, even though we are in the process of divorce and it's ugly, my x would still call me "my wife". That really was strange to hear because I haven't been a wife in about two years! Now it sounds like a possession and it mocked me.
His wedding ring was off right away. I'm sure it's burned or in a river somewhere.
He tells me that he wants to speed up the process and his L tells my L that "he is busy" when she tries to set things up-but X here definitely is in a hurry-it's all very strange, for sure.
Wearing the ring could be a show, like for court or the lawyers or public? Further manipulation. My X tried to say "I really tried", had crocodile tears, the whole 9 yards.
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
I dealt with someone like this in a different matter, you just can't negotiate with them, they love the games and control, so you have to apply to the court.
My STBX is still wearing his ring. He doesn't want the divorce either - he says I am the one who wants a divorce. Hmm. Yes. After I found out about his multiple affairs over several years. It's his way of abdicating responsibility for his actions.
He says it's my choice to divorce.
I call it a consequence.
In my situation, we just finished producing documents. I did everything I was supposed to do and wrapped it up nicely in a bow and he did jack shit. I had made over 1,500 copies of documents and statements and he had 30 pages of nothing. So now I have to go to court and hope the judge orders him to comply which he should have just done in the first place. Someone here told me that the only way to push this along is to make stbx responsible for court costs and attorney fees for HIS bullshit and maybe, just maybe, he will get it through his empty skull and get his shit together.
It seems we both have passive aggressive stbx's. Is this how yours behaved during the marriage? Mine did so I shouldn't be surprised.
When he was dragging his feet, my attorney said that all I could do was wait him out.
He does shutdown when he is upset. The thing is that I am truly the only person that knows him at the core. I know his secrets and that is the reason why he is so angry because I am calling him on his shit!
Other people think he is such a great guy! The ring thing is surprising that your WH's were doing the same thing. Image, image and more image.
My WH is also making appointment and calls to our first marriage counselor that I found. I really liked that counselor. I just don't get it.