We were going to take a break tonight from talking about it.
We were tired and just wanted to hangout and enjoy each other. That was the plan.
He gets home and gives me his phone. She called twice. First- he just hung up. She called back while he was working and it went to voicemail.
I heard her voice. She saw us in the grocery store on Monday. She told him it broke her heart and she can't stand to have him look right through her. (He says he ddnt see her- based in hi behavior at te store i believe him). She only wanted him happy and she was glad to see that he was with me. She only wants him to be happy and she won't call him or text again.
Barf.
Then... She texted.
"I hate you for settling"
Wow. Very proud of hubby for sharing. But wow.
So now we talk. Oh.... When I say it was like d day all over again. Oh boy..
I asked questions he tried to answer them- why did she say settling? What did you say about me? Remember the words!!! You have to tell me EXACTLY what you did and said the WHOLE TIME!
It was awful. I was so lost.
But... He offered to sit down and write it all down. He asked for a few days and said that when the kids go to his moms on Saturday, he will sit down an write everything for me.
I don't want him to hurt- I told him that- but yes... Am I wrong? Should I just say "it's okay baby..."?!?
I told him we'd talk on Saturday but that this was our "relax" night and we didn't need to talk about it. He said it was okay. And I said, no. Tonight we just enjoy each other. She attempted contact on the wrong day and we are not going to deal with it right now.
She will not do that to me. She is not in control and she has no place here.
Wait a few- I may have to post in General So that I can properly express my feelings toward her.
I'm trying to keep calm and not give her anymore of my time tonight.
He asked if I was okay while we made dinner. I was. We enjoyed the kids and the meal. We laughed and talked and did not dwell on it.
I told him I was still processing and there were no guarantees about any delayed reactions, but for right then, I was good.
Stay tuned for part two when it actually HITS me.
Thanks friends!