Divorce final in March, with the stipulation that everything in the house would be legally mine within 60 days, if he didn't get his stuff out. Well, that day came and went.
Today I get an email from him. He wants to buy the lawn equipment from me for $400. Now this is a huge riding lawn tractor, aerator, thatcher. I think it is worth alot more than that. And he wants the buy the exercise equipment. I was thinking of selling this stuff to pay for the house taxes next year. I didn't use these things this year.
I am sure a "people pleaser" that my first reaction was to sell it to him. I don't want to rock the boat. I know that sounds stupid because there is NO boat to rock. Why am I still putting him and his wants before mine? He had his chance to get this stuff.
Crap...I need a damn backbone. I don't want to deal with this. He made his choice, now just leave me alone.
I am so anxious about this. Dealing with money issues with him has always made me feel anxious. I feel like I have to make up excuses to tell him "no"...why??? He knew he was leaving this stuff behind and it didn't seem to bother him when his "soul mate" was waiting for him at home.
I hate being anxious, and he is the only one who makes me feel this way.
I could just reply to his email, stating I didn't use them this season, but will use them next season...again...why do I feel the need to make excuses? Why do I give a crap about his feelings?
If you don't want to sell it, don't. The end.
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
when you start to doubt yourself, keep this in mind:
He knew he was leaving this stuff behind and it didn't seem to bother him when his "soul mate" was waiting for him at home.
fuck that guy
I sent him a short email, stating I am using the stuff/going to need the stuff next season. He replied "I understand. Thanks."
Why even ask me for the stuff...I know the answer to that...because in the past, I gave him what he wanted, even though I didn't want to.
If it's something you were going to sell anyway, give him the first offer. Make it a fair price but not a "deal" by any means. Look up what the exercise stuff if currently going for and offer it to him at that price. Don't go back and forth on it, this is the price, you want it or you don't.
Now is the time to let him know he isn't in the driver's seat anymore. Don't sell him anything. He and cutie pie can buy their own stuff.
[This message edited by momentintime at 6:28 PM, November 14th (Thursday)]
"Global editing disclaimer - I edit almost everything I post, and I am not going to post why every time."...re: Bionical girl
Oh hell no. Sell that stuff and do something nice for yourself. Why should Exwh get a bargain. You owe him nothing.
Put on those bitch boots...that stuff is yours and worth money. Let him go to Sears and buy what he needs to take care of his love nest.. It isn't your responsibility to give him a bargain.
End of story