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User Topic: Moving to D/S forum
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Member # 35214
Default  Posted: 8:54 AM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I wanted to tell everyone in R forum goodbye. After a rocky two years, H and I have decided to end our marraige.. I say we've decided, I've actually decided, and basically he doesn't want me to hurt anymore so he's letting go gracefully.

H has moved into upstairs room. I'll be moving out of our home between Christmas and New Years. There's no bitterness or rancor, just a sad recognition that some things just can't be overcome. It's as amicable a split as there could be, for which I am grateful. I'll be moving my postings to divorce/separation forum.

This turned out to be a dealbreaker for me. I can at least say I hung in for almost two years and tried my dead level best to get through this. But I just can't.

The main emotions are sadness, and a strange relief.

I want to wish everyone in R forum the absolute best in their journeys and hope to see none of you in D/S forum!

Me: BS(45)Him: EX, aka "The Dink"(52). D-Day#1 12/22/11. D-Day#2 5/23/13. Divorced 1/10/14.

New chapter of my life- married 11/13/15 to the man I'd thought I would never find.

Throw me to the wolves and I'll return leading the pack.

Posts: 443 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: North Texas
♂ 34086
Member # 34086
Default  Posted: 9:01 AM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Best of luck to you Wanna. It makes me wonder if that old adage of "It's better to have tried and failed, then never tried at all" is true. Sounds like it is in your case.

Married: 20 years (14 @JFO)
D-Day: 11/09/11
"Ohhhhh...shut up Tred!" - NOT the official SI motto (DS)

Posts: 5497 | Registered: Dec 2011
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Member # 31240
Default  Posted: 10:59 AM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not al progress is joyful. I'm sorry it isn't for you right now. That sense of relief, though, sounds like a sign this is the best choice for you. Best wishes to you.

fBH (me) - 66 on d-day, Married 43, together 45 on d-day, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
Most of us know only our own experience. That's not enough data to support a general rule that D, or R, is right in every sitch.

Posts: 16581 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Illinois
♀ 35812
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 4:43 PM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry that it didn't work out. I am, in a strange sense, happy for you, in that you have discovered what you need to do to move on. (((hugs)))

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 9933 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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Member # 34353
Default  Posted: 4:49 PM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am sorry R didn't work out for you and your marriage. I hope you find the happiness you are searching for.

Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.

Posts: 1849 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
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