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User Topic: More flavors of pain than coffee
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Default  Posted: 9:37 AM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A book quote which resonated with me. I've long believed what he has written, but I have never been able to articulate it so well, or so beautifully.

And at some point you realize that there are more flavors of pain than coffee. There's the little empty pain of leaving something behind ‒ graduating, taking the next step forward, walking out of something familiar and safe into the unknown. There's the big, whirling pain of life upending all of your plans and expectations. There's the sharp little pains of failure, and the more obscure aches of successes that didn't give you what you thought they would. There are the vicious, stabbing pains of hopes being torn up. The sweet little pains of finding others, giving them your love, and taking joy in their life as they grow and learn. There's the steady pain of empathy that you shrug off so you can stand beside a wounded friend and help them bear their burdens.

And if you are very, very lucky, there are a few blazing hot little pains you feel when you realize that you are standing in a moment of utter perfection, an instant of triumph, or happiness, or mirth which at the same time cannot possibly last ‒ and yet will remain with you for life.

Everyone is down on pain, because they forget something important about it: Pain is for the living. Only the dead don't feel it.

Pain is a part of life. Sometimes it's a big part, and sometimes it isn't, but either way, it's a part of the big puzzle, the deep music, the great game. Pain does two things: It teaches you, tells you that you're alive. Then it passes away and leaves you changed. It leaves you wiser, sometimes. Sometimes it leaves you stronger. Either way, pain leaves its mark, and everything important that will ever happen to you in life is going to involve it in one degree or another.

Jim Butcher, White Night

“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown

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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

That really does sum it up.


Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

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Default  Posted: 11:15 AM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for sharing, I really needed this today.

"I haven't stopped looking for the good in people. I've just accepted the fact that I'm not always going to find it."-Patti LaBelle

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Default  Posted: 11:58 AM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

very good. Thanks for sharing!

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:54

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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Beautifully put. Thank you, Thren.

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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Default  Posted: 12:06 PM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WOW...that's so true! I love it!

"Sometimes your knight in shining armor just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12

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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So very well said

Me BxW, him SA NPD WxH
1 son: sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
No longer broken
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Finally Divorced!!

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Default  Posted: 6:05 PM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It reminds me of what was said at my father's funeral. Today would have been his birthday,

"The price we pay for love, is grief."

Pain is a part of life.

me...BS, 46 years old.

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Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, November 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

thank you so much for posting this, thren. it really does sum it up, and I definitely needed the reminder.

Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we'll ever do. ~ Brené Brown

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