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Threnody posted 11/14/2013 09:37 AM

A book quote which resonated with me. I've long believed what he has written, but I have never been able to articulate it so well, or so beautifully.

And at some point you realize that there are more flavors of pain than coffee. There's the little empty pain of leaving something behind ‒ graduating, taking the next step forward, walking out of something familiar and safe into the unknown. There's the big, whirling pain of life upending all of your plans and expectations. There's the sharp little pains of failure, and the more obscure aches of successes that didn't give you what you thought they would. There are the vicious, stabbing pains of hopes being torn up. The sweet little pains of finding others, giving them your love, and taking joy in their life as they grow and learn. There's the steady pain of empathy that you shrug off so you can stand beside a wounded friend and help them bear their burdens.

And if you are very, very lucky, there are a few blazing hot little pains you feel when you realize that you are standing in a moment of utter perfection, an instant of triumph, or happiness, or mirth which at the same time cannot possibly last ‒ and yet will remain with you for life.

Everyone is down on pain, because they forget something important about it: Pain is for the living. Only the dead don't feel it.

Pain is a part of life. Sometimes it's a big part, and sometimes it isn't, but either way, it's a part of the big puzzle, the deep music, the great game. Pain does two things: It teaches you, tells you that you're alive. Then it passes away and leaves you changed. It leaves you wiser, sometimes. Sometimes it leaves you stronger. Either way, pain leaves its mark, and everything important that will ever happen to you in life is going to involve it in one degree or another.

Jim Butcher, White Night

MovingUpward posted 11/14/2013 09:44 AM

That really does sum it up.

luvbug0915 posted 11/14/2013 11:15 AM

Thank you for sharing, I really needed this today.

better4me posted 11/14/2013 11:58 AM

very good. Thanks for sharing!

nowiknow23 posted 11/14/2013 12:01 PM

Beautifully put. Thank you, Thren.

She11ybeanz posted 11/14/2013 12:06 PM

WOW...that's so true! I love it!

BrokenDaisy posted 11/14/2013 13:50 PM

So very well said

cmego posted 11/14/2013 18:05 PM

It reminds me of what was said at my father's funeral. Today would have been his birthday,

"The price we pay for love, is grief."

Pain is a part of life.

inconnu posted 11/14/2013 19:33 PM

thank you so much for posting this, thren. it really does sum it up, and I definitely needed the reminder.

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