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katiesmom (original poster member #39074) posted at 4:54 PM on Thursday, November 14th, 2013
Today would have been my 15th wedding anniversary had my ex not chosen OW over me and his family three years ago.
I know I am better off without a cheating jerk for a husband, but I can't help but feel a little sad today. I guess because I had such hopes and dreams on my wedding day and now those dreams are pretty much crushed. I never pictured myself as an ex-wife and certainly never thought the man who I trusted more than anything in the world would have done such a horrible thing to me.
I am looking forward to the time when this day will no longer have any meaning to me. But as for this year, it is still hurts.
MovingUpward ( member #14866) posted at 5:06 PM on Thursday, November 14th, 2013
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 5:57 PM on Thursday, November 14th, 2013
(((katiesmom)))
It is okay to feel sad today. The loss of dreams and a huge broken promise is something appropriate to mourn. Hurting about it means that you are a human being with a heart and that there are things that are important to you. I don't think my anniversary will ever mean "nothing" to me, if I will never "hurt" on that day...but I know it means less and less with each passing year and that I hurt less and less.
My dday is approaching and I'm hopeful that day will hurt less than it did last year...
Tomorrow is another day.
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
She11ybeanz ( member #27457) posted at 6:08 PM on Thursday, November 14th, 2013
((katiesmom))
I understand. Tomorrow marks the 4 year anniversary of D day for me.....and I look forward to the day that it passes and I don't realize it.... 
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
katiesmom (original poster member #39074) posted at 9:13 PM on Thursday, November 14th, 2013
Thanks for the kind words and understanding. It's hard for me to talk to other people outside of SI about this. Most of my friends and family would not understand why I am still feeling this way after three years. It's so comforting to know that I can come here whenever I am feeling down and to know that my feelings will be understood.
As for today, I am just trying to keep busy and am looking forward to seeing my daughter kick butt tonight at her archery practice. 
Harriet ( member #34543) posted at 3:19 PM on Friday, November 15th, 2013
Do you think it hurts even a little for the cheating exes? I always wonder if they notice the day and think on it even a little bit.
D-Day Spring 2008
3 years false R
Divorce Final 6/7/12
katiesmom (original poster member #39074) posted at 4:17 PM on Friday, November 15th, 2013
I wondered that myself. But, even it it did hurt them, they would never admit it. At least my ex would never admit it.
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