I feel so sick. My youngest DSS cheated on his beautiful girlfriend. His girlfriend already has daddy abandonment issues. Her father cheated, then left her mother and the marriage of 17 years for his OW. In typical W fashion, he had nothing to do with his kids for a few years. About 2 years ago, he had a case of conscience and is now actively involved again. A lot of damage was done to those kids though.
Now DSS cheated. Then, out of guilt dumpeed her for 2 days. No explanation. Let her think it was something she did.
Then he decided he wanted her back because she is special and because she loves him so much. HE deserves her love because he made a mistake but isn't a bad person. I urged him to tell her the truth and work through the guilt and shame. He told me they made up but didn't tell her about cheating. His explanation, he felt that HE deserved another chance and HE deserved to have her as his girlfriend. Sounded just like his father. Talk about de ja vu.
All of this happened right before he ran away and days before my WH came home and abandoned me.
I haven't shared this with anybody. I kept it bottled up.
My DSSs bio mother has major emotional issues and basically abandoned these boys when they were younger.
DSS changed his phone number and won't have any contact with me because I tried to be his conscience.
Jeez, how do the hell do we break the cycle and keep our children from repeating their parents' poor choices. Coincidence that these two kids found each other? NOT.