Holy moly - I don't even know where to begin.
WH is a SA. He has been "sober" since Dec 5. However, it's his constant TT & lies of omission that are KILLING me!
When I found out about the affair in Dec, he said that was it. Then I found emails in his secret account in May - so he admitted to 6 more. Then a couple weeks ago I found some more - and he finally admitted to about 25 (that he can remember).
I tell him that the part that is making it hardest for me is that he keeps lying and dragging it out. Just tell me & get it over with!!
Today I asked about his LTA (3mo)- if they had really only seen each other 4 times. He tells me it was 5 or 6. I asked if she was ever in our house - he tells me twice (ugh- now I have to sell the bed & couch!).
We wanted to work it out, but have decided to separate for now. Are there any SA spouses who have separated and made it work??