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tamarack posted 11/14/2013 18:18 PM

Haven't been on an SI in a very long time so I wanted to check back in.

Really don't have much of an update. Still working insane hours just trying to make ends meet, trying my best to take care of two children who are growing like weeds and eating me out of house and home. Good news is that I'm now working from home telecommuting to work, so I no longer spend two hours a day sitting in rush hour traffic. But that's my life in a nut shell, my kids and my job.

Nothing new with XH either. Other than an occasion email to the kids about how much he loves them and misses them, none of us have had any contact with him in years. In this case, that's a very good thing. And yes, he remains a complete deadbeat.

I also wanted to offer some hope for those of you who are just staring out on this journey. It is ROUGH! Even now, 6 1/2 years after dday, there are days when I wonder how in the world I'm going to do it all by myself. Fact is, I don't do it all, I just try to do the best I can.

Life now is infinitely easier than it was six years ago. I cannot thank my friends at SI enough for carrying me through the first few years. You laughed with me. You cried with me. You encouraged me when I felt like giving up. You were there for me every step of the way, making me who I am today. My wounds have healed and the scars serve as a permanent reminder that I did survive infidelity .

ArkLaMiss posted 11/14/2013 18:35 PM

Hiya! So what became of the property and all that stuff, Tam? Did you EVER get back cs from him? Oh, and what abt yhe crazy ow?
Glad you and kids are ok!

caregiver9000 posted 11/14/2013 18:43 PM

I still think about you and I am GLAD to see you!!

betrayedfriend posted 11/14/2013 19:07 PM

Glad to see you and hear everything is going well Tam!

risingfromashes posted 11/14/2013 19:29 PM

Thank you so much for the update!

Williesmom posted 11/14/2013 19:56 PM

I'm glad you checked in. I was thinking about you recently.

cantlivewithouth posted 11/14/2013 20:42 PM

Holy Crow! I was just thinking about you yesterday! I'm so glad you checked in! Happy to hear you are doing well.

Catwoman posted 11/14/2013 21:11 PM

Glad to see you, Tam.

travels posted 11/14/2013 21:21 PM

I was thinking of you the other day.
I take it your Ex hasn't sent the kids any dirty toys for Christmas presents lately?

tamarack posted 11/15/2013 19:11 PM

No contact from XH in several years other than an occasional email to the kids. Which they ignore, neither of them wants anything to do with him

The house in Idaho is in foreclosure. They missed way too many mortgage payments, and I'm certainly in no position to pay a huge chunk of money I don't have only to wind up with a big property I cannot possibly afford At least foreclosure will break the last hold he has over me, which has been a noose hanging over my head pretty much since dday. Yes, my credit will be destroyed, but at least I can start fresh.

FirstLoveGone posted 11/15/2013 22:43 PM

Nice to see an update from you. There are so many stories I follow that I lose track of posters sometimes. But I remember your story well.

Thanks for checking in.

ajsmom posted 11/16/2013 09:36 AM

Hey, Tam.

Great to hear from you!

I think about you every Christmas - you know, the old toys via the mail incident.

Glad to hear you're hanging in there!

AJ's MOM

tamarack posted 11/16/2013 15:38 PM

I think about you every Christmas - you know, the old toys via the mail incident.

I still laugh about it every Christmas. He no longer sends them any presents