How come everyone else says the dumbest things when they find out!?
-you're so young
-be happy you don't have kids
-you have your whole life ahead of you
-there is another man out there for you, a better one
OK! My response
-Yes, I am young, been married only two years (together 6). People my age shouldn't have to be going through this! This shouldn't have to be a part of my past ALREADY (well ever really)
-I completely understand how horrible it is to have kids in the mix and I know it makes it less difficult but telling me to be HAPPY? How can I be happy about anything right now. It doesn't make MY feelings and situation any less devastating.
-I am not capable of looking at my "whole life" right now. I always had my whole life ahead of me. Now it just doesn't look anything like what I always wanted. It looks awful.
-I don't WANT another man!! Maybe if I did I would have been the WS. But I'm not, I'm the BS, because I LOVE my H! And I don't even think it is appropriate to start thinking about other men right now.
Does anyone else just want to slap people and tell them to shut up when they attempt to make it better? I totally know it comes from a place of love and protection and wanting to fix everything, but sometimes I seriously just want to repeat what they said to me and be like "really? do you think that helps? can you just BE HERE?"
It's good to have a place where people just get it. You can't physically MAKE it better or take it away. You just have to live it.