I know several of you have had "poofers", that come back. Cat's GDM is the first one that comes to mind, and look how great that turned out
So... the guy I went out with has come back around. For about a week or so. I haven't seen him, but might tonight. I'm still not sure. I've been honest with him that I'm guarded, because of my past experience (which of course I didn't elaborate on), and his actions (or lack thereof). He says he understands, is sorry, and promises he will show me that he's not an asshole.
First things first. His excuse for that week was that he got crazy busy at work. The winterizing of the marina, and boats, etc... He also has his own business on the side.
I explained to him how communicating is important to me, and how I can easily jump to conclusions (prob not a good thing, but can't help it) with quiet and poofing. So far he's been good... attentive, responsive, initiating communication every day, etc... and there have been times where he has disappeared, and I've jumped into "uh huh... he's out with someone else" crap (DAMN BAGGAGE), and he later takes the time to explain that... for example... "left work at 7:30, phone died, changed clothes and plugged phone in, went out to shop and worked on a customer's bike for a couple hours, and replied as soon as I saw your message".
I haven't gone overboard, accusing him of anything, or saying anything mean or rude, just that night after a couple hours, I did mention that for several days he had been unavailable at night and it bothered me.
Before anyone asks about the texting, I will share something - he has a stutter. The friend that introduced us said it was much worse when he was younger, but it is still there. I definitely noticed it when we went out. He was fine, and seemed comfortable, and the conversation flowed, but I did make a joke that he could CALL me, and not text... and he said he felt better texting and in person. I think it is because of the stutter.
Should I give it another chance?? I'm still not very invested. I think I'd like to see him again tonight, but at this point in my life I'm perfectly content, and if I don't... that's fine too... lol. I think it's this peri menopause crap. My dating/sex/man "drive" is about nil