Shortly after D-Day WH and I separated for a time and I started divorce proceedings. There is a couple we have been friends with for 20+ years. The woman was one of my closest friends. She was really lovely to me for a few weeks after D-Day. While we we were separated WH spoke to this woman and told her that I was treating him very badly.
The back-story is that WH would fetch DD for school every morning, he would arrive early and come inside, make himself at home in the kitchen and on one occasion he came walking into my bedroom - I thought this was WAY out of line as we were divorcing and I made him wait in the car for DD from then on. Then, a few weeks later, there was a major week-long event happening on the beach close to his flat - loud music until the early hours of every morning. DD had dinner with him one night and, on returning home, asked if her dad could come and sleep in the spare-room for 2 nights until this event was over, as he was getting no sleep and the noise was unbearable. I was hesitant, but to keep the peace with DD and to be reasonable I agreed. He slept IN THE SPARE-ROOM for 2 nights.
WH told the friend that I was kicking him out of the home one day and inviting him to sleep over the next. Her assumption was (maybe he implied?) that I was inviting him to sleep over IN MY BED, for sex!!
This friend phoned me up and chewed my ear off. Told me that the A happened years ago (see my profile) and that since then WH had been a wonderful husband to me and she could not understand WHAT my problem was, why I could not leave the past in the past yadda yadda yadda and that to kick this man out of his house was RIDICULOUS and to then invite him back left him SO confused.... blah, blah, blah.. . I tried my best to explain the real situation to her, but she was having none of it! She finally told me that she didn't want someone like me in her life, slammed the phone down on me and that was the end of a 20+ year friendship!
A few months later I tried to patch things up, she refused to speak to me. I took comfort in the fact that she doesn't speak to a single member of her family or a single member of her husbands family either, so I am not alone
Quite frankly, her reaction was so bizarre, that I have since wondered if she has not been unfaithful at some point....
But it hurts. It hurts that someone I thought was my friend could turn on me in my hour of need. And it hurts that my WH's infidelity affected another relationship that I valued.
I have peace with it though. I tried my best to patch things up. I tried to explain what had actually happened to her. She chose not to listen, she chose not to be a true friend. So it's on her.