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Daisy312 (original poster member #36813) posted at 12:28 PM on Saturday, November 16th, 2013
I just wanted to share so good news since we often focus on the negative. I'm 18 mo out, and my FWH is trying so hard to be the h I deserve. The past 18 mo have been torture! I've been depressed and just getting by and riding that awful rollercoaster we are all on. Well, I finally decided I was going to take care of myself and get into ic. At first I thought she was a bit strange, and aways felt worse after my sessions. I have gone 4 times and the last two I have left feeling really good. She has given me ways to deal with my triggers, and recommended a book by jack kornfield. I looked him up and have started looking into forgiveness meditation, and for the first time in 18 mo I feel normal. I'm happy, enjoying my kids, my h, and even my friends. One thing I've really taken from my new perspective is that they took a lot from me but they do not have the right to take away my joy. I have made the decision to acknowledge my feelings but to not dwell. I've wasted so much headspace on thoughts that do not matter. I can't change the past. So, although I don't feel completetly committed to my marriage I'm going to take it one day at a time and enjoy each day. I deserve it! Sorry for the rambling, I just thought I'd share:)
torn2pieces ( new member #39029) posted at 1:03 PM on Saturday, November 16th, 2013
nice to hear :) take care of yourself first and hopefully all will fall into place.
AFrayedKnot ( member #36622) posted at 1:14 PM on Saturday, November 16th, 2013
BS 48fWS 44 (SurprisinglyOkay)DsD DSA whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better."Knowing is half the battle"
Sammy2013 ( member #41040) posted at 3:13 PM on Saturday, November 16th, 2013
Good to hear and see happy posts like this. Gives me some hope. Them taking a lot from you, but not the right to take you joy really said something to me. Thank you!!
WH -42;BS (me) 43
Married 17 years, 3 kiddos
First DDay 9/13. TT and 3 more DDays in the 6 months to follow. Reconciled in year 4 of the 2-5 year range.
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 9:15 PM on Saturday, November 16th, 2013
Good for you for making yourself a priority!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
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