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Topic: I've had two really great weeks
Member # 36813
Posted: 6:28 AM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013
I just wanted to share so good news since we often focus on the negative. I'm 18 mo out, and my FWH is trying so hard to be the h I deserve. The past 18 mo have been torture! I've been depressed and just getting by and riding that awful rollercoaster we are all on. Well, I finally decided I was going to take care of myself and get into ic. At first I thought she was a bit strange, and aways felt worse after my sessions. I have gone 4 times and the last two I have left feeling really good. She has given me ways to deal with my triggers, and recommended a book by jack kornfield. I looked him up and have started looking into forgiveness meditation, and for the first time in 18 mo I feel normal. I'm happy, enjoying my kids, my h, and even my friends. One thing I've really taken from my new perspective is that they took a lot from me but they do not have the right to take away my joy. I have made the decision to acknowledge my feelings but to not dwell. I've wasted so much headspace on thoughts that do not matter. I can't change the past. So, although I don't feel completetly committed to my marriage I'm going to take it one day at a time and enjoy each day. I deserve it! Sorry for the rambling, I just thought I'd share:)
Posts: 284 | Registered: Sep 2012
Member # 39029
Posted: 7:03 AM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013
nice to hear :) take care of yourself first and hopefully all will fall into place.
Posts: 43 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: torn2pieces
Member # 36622
Posted: 7:14 AM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013
fWS 37 (SurprisinglyOkay)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"
Posts: 2692 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 41040
Posted: 9:13 AM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013
Good to hear and see happy posts like this. Gives me some hope. Them taking a lot from you, but not the right to take you joy really said something to me. Thank you!!
WH -37; BS (me) 38
Married 13 years, 3 kiddos
First DDay 9/13. 3 more since then (trickle truth sucks). 6 years of Prostitutes, 2 affairs in 2013, SA diagnosis now with 1 relapse so far (massage parlor with happy ending 2/14).
Posts: 214 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Southeast United States
Member # 35812
Posted: 3:15 PM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013
Good for you for making yourself a priority!
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Posts: 5236 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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