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Topic: On a "family" trip

careerlady
♀ 16958
Member # 16958

Posted: 10:28 PM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013

So I served STBX 12 days ago. So why are we on a family trip in the hot springs? Because my NPD husband announced that he was going and taking DS16months who he's never been further than the grocery store with alone. He then asked if I was coming (trying to control me I know). With no custody orders I have no basis to keep him from taking DS so I came. We are now playing happy family. My strategy is I'll be nice as long as he is nice and hopefully if he responds to my petition it won't be so aggressive or maybe the guy is so arrogant he thinks I won't go through with it so he won't even bother and I'll get default. I'm just praying he won't do anything too cruel or rash when he realizes I'm going through with this thing this time.

Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

Posts: 949 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California

nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226

Posted: 10:30 PM, November 16th (Saturday), 2013

Oy, honey. Sending you tons of strength. ((((careerlady & DS))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

Posts: 40124 | Registered: Aug 2011

devistatedmom
♀ 24961
Member # 24961

Posted: 8:26 AM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013

Yikes. You are one strong lady. I hope your lawyer can get through some custody papers in short order so you don't have to do this again! No way would I have been able to do what you are doing. I would have refused to let him take the child, and that would have had its own problems.

Stay strong.

BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.

Posts: 5919 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada

tesla
♀ 34697
Member # 34697

Posted: 10:17 AM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013

That fucking sucks.

Hope the custody papers go through very quickly.

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4962 | Registered: Jan 2012

careerlady
♀ 16958
Member # 16958

Posted: 12:26 PM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013

Actually my parents got divorced when I was 16 and lived under the same roof for 2 years, taking trips with me and everything. They still enjoy a great collaborative relationship that I have benefited from. I wouldn't mind doing that for DS's sake.

The problem is I think he thinks we are working towards R and we're not (in fact last time I checked the fing cake eater was still in contact with OW of the month). Otherwise I would be happy to stay friendly like this forever.

Posts: 949 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California

Kajem
♀ 36134
Member # 36134

Posted: 12:32 PM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013

Sending strength for you.

Hugs,
K

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 6708 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida

careerlady
♀ 16958
Member # 16958

Posted: 1:09 PM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013

Couldn't resist checking his phone while he was in the shower. Looks like he and flavor of the month broke up according to their angry texts. She told him to have a nice life with his wife. Not gonna happen!

Posts: 949 | Registered: Nov 2007 | From: Northern California

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