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This weekend is just one big trigger. Fwh has restarted the course he was doing during A just before he ended up in hospital with A related bipolar meltdown.

The latest trigger was discovering last night that our 3 year old has head lice again. Last time was during A and apart from shaving his head (which AP hated) he did nothing as part of sorting it out. That was my job. Like everything else as he had withdrawn from being part of the family.

Last night was very different. He treated dd and informed ds. I'm not feeling great with triggers and was feeling distinctly unsexy with lice and insecticides. How can that compete with the excitement of an A?

I told him and he hugged me and said "this is real love and 20 million times better"

Which is helping me with my triggers today

Thanks to the head lice

Though I'm still itchy

This is so weird! My DD got head lice right after d-day last year! Like I needed more stress. You say "treated". I would not recommend chemical treatments. They don't kill the eggs (no matter what the package says) and a large percentage of lice are actually resistant to most chemicals on the market. Since you said she got lice AGAIN, this tells me the eggs were not killed the first time. If you really want to get rid of lice, I would recommend the nit terminator comb (sold on line but not available in drug stores- i got mine from amazon). Google a 21 day combing schedule, use nit terminator comb on combing days(use some conditioner to get thru hair), wash sheets and bedding on day one and maybe 2 x a week during combing. Google what nits and nymphs look like---know your enemy!! After the combing regimen, you will have NO lice, use no toxic chemicals, and the comb is a strong metal comb that can be kept and used again and again. Good luck!

Oh, and I am so crazy about lice eradication , I forgot to comment on the other aspects of your post! I am so glad that your FWH is being supportive and active in the family. I hope that helps with the triggers....although it probably won't help the itchy scalp feelings!

[This message edited by RipsInMyChest at 8:24 AM, November 17th (Sunday)]

We used the chemicals both times to kill the living ones. I agree about the eggs. They need combing out and we then did the combing for about 2-3 weeks. It was about 4-5 months ago and we were doing checks weekly until I lost sight of it at dday so I think this is a new batch. She's at preschool (kindergarten) equivalent and they go around a lot at this age. Combing her is easy enough as she's got fine hair. Me and our other dd is a different story. Loads of thick hair. Bleurgh

We live in the ghetto. We get head lice like 12 times a year.

My DD7 also got head lice soon after DDay! She has long hair and it was truly a nightmare. Thank god it was just after my H and I ended our separation and he was home helping.

While it sucks that your DD has lice, hopefully your H being there, being supportive, and saying the kind words will take away some of the power of the trigger.

I know what you mean about the itching. Oddly enough my only two real-life recurring dreams/nightmares this past year have been the A and head lice!

Glad your WH is being so supportive.

On the headline front...make sure your preschool is disinfecting sleep and play mats etc. my girlfriends kids had head lice and every time it cleared up it was back within weeks. Turns out this was the reason. Good luck!