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User Topic: Head lice
Marathonwaseasy
♀ 40674
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Default  Posted: 3:00 AM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This weekend is just one big trigger. Fwh has restarted the course he was doing during A just before he ended up in hospital with A related bipolar meltdown.

The latest trigger was discovering last night that our 3 year old has head lice again. Last time was during A and apart from shaving his head (which AP hated) he did nothing as part of sorting it out. That was my job. Like everything else as he had withdrawn from being part of the family.

Last night was very different. He treated dd and informed ds. I'm not feeling great with triggers and was feeling distinctly unsexy with lice and insecticides. How can that compete with the excitement of an A?

I told him and he hugged me and said "this is real love and 20 million times better"

Which is helping me with my triggers today
Thanks to the head lice
Though I'm still itchy


Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...

"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."


Posts: 421 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ireland
RipsInMyChest
♀ 41166
Member # 41166
Default  Posted: 8:15 AM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is so weird! My DD got head lice right after d-day last year! Like I needed more stress. You say "treated". I would not recommend chemical treatments. They don't kill the eggs (no matter what the package says) and a large percentage of lice are actually resistant to most chemicals on the market. Since you said she got lice AGAIN, this tells me the eggs were not killed the first time. If you really want to get rid of lice, I would recommend the nit terminator comb (sold on line but not available in drug stores- i got mine from amazon). Google a 21 day combing schedule, use nit terminator comb on combing days(use some conditioner to get thru hair), wash sheets and bedding on day one and maybe 2 x a week during combing. Google what nits and nymphs look like---know your enemy!! After the combing regimen, you will have NO lice, use no toxic chemicals, and the comb is a strong metal comb that can be kept and used again and again. Good luck!


Me: BW 41
FWH 41
Together 21 yrs, M 18, 2 kids
DDay: 12/11/12 ONS with CW
Used condom, got chlamydia anyway.

His betrayal of me was not because I didn't shine brightly enough, but because he chose to put on blinders.


Posts: 303 | Registered: Oct 2013
RipsInMyChest
♀ 41166
Member # 41166
Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh, and I am so crazy about lice eradication , I forgot to comment on the other aspects of your post! I am so glad that your FWH is being supportive and active in the family. I hope that helps with the triggers....although it probably won't help the itchy scalp feelings!

[This message edited by RipsInMyChest at 8:24 AM, November 17th (Sunday)]


Me: BW 41
FWH 41
Together 21 yrs, M 18, 2 kids
DDay: 12/11/12 ONS with CW
Used condom, got chlamydia anyway.

His betrayal of me was not because I didn't shine brightly enough, but because he chose to put on blinders.


Posts: 303 | Registered: Oct 2013
Marathonwaseasy
♀ 40674
Member # 40674
Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We used the chemicals both times to kill the living ones. I agree about the eggs. They need combing out and we then did the combing for about 2-3 weeks. It was about 4-5 months ago and we were doing checks weekly until I lost sight of it at dday so I think this is a new batch. She's at preschool (kindergarten) equivalent and they go around a lot at this age. Combing her is easy enough as she's got fine hair. Me and our other dd is a different story. Loads of thick hair. Bleurgh


Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...

"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."


Posts: 421 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Ireland
steadfast1973
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Frustrated  Posted: 9:27 AM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We live in the ghetto. We get head lice like 12 times a year.


Me- 40- BS Him- 36- WH D-day#1 5/25/09 3 mo. EA d-day#2 11/06/13 Prostitute 11/5/13 in R
"I've seen your flag on the marble arch, our love is not a victory march, it's a cold and broken hallelujah."- Leonard Cohen

Posts: 2286 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Midwest
TennisTC
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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My DD7 also got head lice soon after DDay! She has long hair and it was truly a nightmare. Thank god it was just after my H and I ended our separation and he was home helping.

While it sucks that your DD has lice, hopefully your H being there, being supportive, and saying the kind words will take away some of the power of the trigger.

I know what you mean about the itching. Oddly enough my only two real-life recurring dreams/nightmares this past year have been the A and head lice!


Me: BW Him: WH (Both early 30's)
Married 11 years with a DD7
DDay: 2-24-13
R'ing

Posts: 167 | Registered: Nov 2013
emotionalgirl
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Member # 40184
Default  Posted: 11:05 AM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Glad your WH is being so supportive.

On the headline front...make sure your preschool is disinfecting sleep and play mats etc. my girlfriends kids had head lice and every time it cleared up it was back within weeks. Turns out this was the reason. Good luck!


1st D day: Saturday July 20,2013
2nd D day....when the s**t really hit the fan and the truth came out.Saturday August 3,2013
3rd D day: Friday August 16, 2013...NC sent Friday Aug 30 4th D day NOV 11
Me: BS
Him: WH
Married 25 years....finally in R

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