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For me it's been 9 months. Though there's a little longing sometimes, I'm willing to stay this way until someone special comes along.

2 years, 6 months, 18 days.

Not that I'm acutely aware that I need some tail ...

3 years and 9 months. I have only had sex about half a dozen times since my marriage ended 8.5 years ago. I regret most of those. I really don't miss it, which is weird since I always had a very healthy sex drive. My ex had very deviant sexual desires however and I felt so objectified (never loved) so it really harmed my sexual appetite spending almost 15 years like that.

About 15 months after we separated, I was in no shape to date and I knew it. Then I dated. Now, back "on the bus" (See New Beginnings…) for about a year.

We discuss down in NB's (for the womenz at least….) that our bodies adjust. I say that my body goes into hibernation when I'm not sexually active. Then when I do meet someone and want to be sexual, it roars back to life

With another person? Lol. So far 7 months used to not be 7 days. The first few were tough. Now it's cool. Emotionally I am still screwed up. Same person since childhood 19 years. How she did it so easy I hate. The fact that I am a guy and it bothers me I hate. But I am closer than I was 6 months ago.

Sex... 2 years. Making love? 7 years. Ever since my exwh started forcing me to have sex with him the love was gone

Since Memorial day weekend 2011. I am not the type to just go get some for the sake of getting some and I just haven't met anyone who I want to risk doing the whole relationship thing with again. I miss it but not enough to make any changes at this point.

There's a thread down in New Beginnings about the 'bus'...I've been riding the bus for nearly two years now. Sigh.

Wow, kudos to all of you for staying this long. It a sign of maturity not to have sex just because your body wants it. Controlling our actions and desire is part of the healing process.

Longest stretch was... years. Plural.

At the rate I'm going, I may end up going for a new personal record....

Years. Longer, if the term "lovemaking" means anything more than sex.

I'm not sure how long, but I'm fairly certain it has been at least one year. It contributes to the debilitating feeling of loneliness sometimes, but at least I don't have to deal with having a woman around that I love intensely but will not have sex with me. That was torture.

[This message edited by endlessabsurdity at 1:47 PM, November 17th (Sunday)]

Ever since D-Day, so I'm going on four months. Not that long I guess.

I'm sure it was just 'sex' for STBXH for a long time, but for me it was lovemaking. I now accept that my experience of our marriage is much different than his.

I'm Divorcing the cheating prick, so I bought a battery operated one.

I went over 5 years.

I'm pretty sure my sperm have fossilized.

ETA: a picture!!!!!

[This message edited by h0peless at 10:16 PM, November 17th (Sunday)]

Honestly and this is embarrassing to say, it has been so long that I am not even sure. At least 8-9 years.

Love making ~ many years. Sex ~ a month before stbx walked out so as of this month, 14 months.

I am not even close to being ready to date or even be friends with other men so I take care of my own needs I think I miss the intimacy more than sex though. My stbx is the only person I ever had sex with so I don't even know where to begin or look or learn or anything which is why I am soooo not even close to being ready to even meet other men.

@ h0peless: That is so friken hilarious!!

I can tell you this. I can do years standing on my head. I purposely took a year off from everything. No dating, sex, relationships. After that it was close to another year before I had sex again because I could not get a date to save my life. And to be honest if it meant having to go through this shit ever again, I could honestly say I'd stay celibate.

I last had sex about 4.5 years ago, just before d-day. Love-making? I don't even know. Maybe 8-10 years ago??

I'm a "sex only within marriage" kind of gal, so I'm in this for the long haul.

Almost 2 1/2 years without sex.
He was the only one.
I have never had lovemaking since he told me that he fell in love for the first time when he re-met MOW.

[This message edited by Lola2kids at 12:20 PM, November 18th (Monday)]