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BrighterFuture (original poster member #38914) posted at 9:45 AM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
For me it's been 9 months. Though there's a little longing sometimes, I'm willing to stay this way until someone special comes along.
Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!
"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.
Vulcanized ( member #33523) posted at 9:56 AM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
2 years, 6 months, 18 days.
Not that I'm acutely aware that I need some tail ... 
Me: fBW/MH 40s
3.26.13: Liberation day: D'd the whiny turd after being saddled with a serial cheating, NPD, jitbag 10 years too long
Now:-----> Everything is as it should be
debbysbaby ( member #32962) posted at 1:15 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
3 years and 9 months. I have only had sex about half a dozen times since my marriage ended 8.5 years ago. I regret most of those. I really don't miss it, which is weird since I always had a very healthy sex drive. My ex had very deviant sexual desires however and I felt so objectified (never loved) so it really harmed my sexual appetite spending almost 15 years like that.
-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 1:17 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
About 15 months after we separated, I was in no shape to date and I knew it. Then I dated. Now, back "on the bus" (See New Beginnings…) for about a year.
We discuss down in NB's (for the womenz at least….) that our bodies adjust. I say that my body goes into hibernation when I'm not sexually active. Then when I do meet someone and want to be sexual, it roars back to life 
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
Thefly559 ( member #40268) posted at 2:01 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
With another person? Lol. So far 7 months used to not be 7 days. The first few were tough. Now it's cool. Emotionally I am still screwed up. Same person since childhood 19 years. How she did it so easy I hate. The fact that I am a guy and it bothers me I hate. But I am closer than I was 6 months ago.
"respect? you don't deserve it, you won't get any from me unless you earn it"
courageous ( member #34477) posted at 2:04 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
Sex... 2 years. Making love? 7 years. Ever since my exwh started forcing me to have sex with him the love was gone
Me: BW (in my 40's) Him: ExWH EA/PA with MOW coworker(also married). He ended up marrying his mistress.
IrishLass518 ( member #34373) posted at 3:06 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
Since Memorial day weekend 2011. I am not the type to just go get some for the sake of getting some and I just haven't met anyone who I want to risk doing the whole relationship thing with again. I miss it but not enough to make any changes at this point.
Me: 46 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 23, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 4:16 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
There's a thread down in New Beginnings about the 'bus'...I've been riding the bus for nearly two years now. Sigh.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
BrighterFuture (original poster member #38914) posted at 4:23 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
Wow, kudos to all of you for staying this long. It a sign of maturity not to have sex just because your body wants it. Controlling our actions and desire is part of the healing process.
Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!
"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.
Whalers11 ( member #27544) posted at 4:44 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
Longest stretch was... years. Plural.
At the rate I'm going, I may end up going for a new personal record....
solus sto ( member #30989) posted at 5:33 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
Years. Longer, if the term "lovemaking" means anything more than sex.
BS-me, 62; X-irrelevant; we’re D & NC. "So much for the past and present. The future is called 'perhaps,' which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the important thing is not to let that scare you." Tennessee Williams
endlessabsurdity ( member #40249) posted at 7:46 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
I'm not sure how long, but I'm fairly certain it has been at least one year. It contributes to the debilitating feeling of loneliness sometimes, but at least I don't have to deal with having a woman around that I love intensely but will not have sex with me. That was torture.
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Gemini71 ( member #40115) posted at 8:33 PM on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
Ever since D-Day, so I'm going on four months. Not that long I guess.
I'm sure it was just 'sex' for STBXH for a long time, but for me it was lovemaking. I now accept that my experience of our marriage is much different than his.
I'm Divorcing the cheating prick, so I bought a battery operated one. 
DSs 21, 16, 12
About my Ex:
IDK
IDC
IDGAF
Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014
aLadypilot ( member #1822) posted at 1:39 AM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
Divorced 9/2010
Just married 7/4/13
h0peless ( member #36697) posted at 4:04 AM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
I'm pretty sure my sperm have fossilized.
ETA: a picture!!!!!
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NotGonnaTakeIt ( new member #35875) posted at 4:22 AM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
Honestly and this is embarrassing to say, it has been so long that I am not even sure. At least 8-9 years.
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 7:51 AM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
Love making ~ many years. Sex ~ a month before stbx walked out so as of this month, 14 months.
I am not even close to being ready to date or even be friends with other men so I take care of my own needs 
I think I miss the intimacy more than sex though. My stbx is the only person I ever had sex with so I don't even know where to begin or look or learn or anything 
which is why I am soooo not even close to being ready to even meet other men.
@ h0peless: That is so friken hilarious!! 
stronger08 ( member #16953) posted at 8:44 AM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
I can tell you this. I can do years standing on my head. I purposely took a year off from everything. No dating, sex, relationships. After that it was close to another year before I had sex again because I could not get a date to save my life. And to be honest if it meant having to go through this shit ever again, I could honestly say I'd stay celibate.
You cant eat soup with chopsticks.
Griefstricken25 ( member #29183) posted at 3:29 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
I last had sex about 4.5 years ago, just before d-day. Love-making? I don't even know. Maybe 8-10 years ago?? 
I'm a "sex only within marriage" kind of gal, so I'm in this for the long haul. 
Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011
Lola2kids ( member #32789) posted at 6:18 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
Almost 2 1/2 years without sex.
He was the only one.
I have never had lovemaking since he told me that he fell in love for the first time when he re-met MOW.
[This message edited by Lola2kids at 12:20 PM, November 18th (Monday)]
BS: (Me) 48
Kids: twins DD(11)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved an ocean away June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"
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