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roughroadahead (original poster member #36060) posted at 12:35 AM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
The good news is that we settled. Took the full two hours of the pretrial a couple of weeks ago, but it is done now. The judgment entry will be submitted in January for tax purposes.
So Waffle has a new job as a regular floor RN, having been fired twice from more senior nursing positions. He is back to rotating shifts and every other weekend. This means he's working one weekend and has the kids on his off weekend. It has seriously cut into the poor thing's MOW time. Awww. In his infinite wisdom, during his first weekend after the divorce settlement, he decides it's a great idea to take the kids to OW's house for the entire weekend, Friday night to Monday morning, driving them across two counties to get them to school.
When discussing with him the appropriateness of having the kids sleep over at her place ("she's daddy's very best friend, mama, he calls her 'my love'. She's so super nice!") after the usual defensive bullshit, he bursts out with this gem: "it's good for the kids to see a model of a positive, healthy relationship"
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BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism
LadyQ ( member #32847) posted at 1:11 AM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
I have no words...
Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...
Mousse242 ( member #6330) posted at 1:19 AM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
roughroadahead (original poster member #36060) posted at 1:27 AM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
Yes, she is really DOW these days, theirs was final in July.
BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism
debbysbaby ( member #32962) posted at 1:40 AM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004
newlysingle ( member #38735) posted at 1:57 AM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
OMG, the Gnat said the same thing to me! After DDay he told me that he was leaving me for her, because the kids needed to see what a healthy relationship looks like. What a bunch of idiots.
BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13
Gemini71 ( member #40115) posted at 2:15 AM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
More importantly, the kids need to see what not to do.
DSs 21, 16, 12
About my Ex:
IDK
IDC
IDGAF
Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 2:54 AM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
They do seriously get dropped on their heads in the D.
The sad clowns response to my refusal to acknowledge requests when he sends them via my 5.5 year old - he's trying to teach her to be responsible for her things. No arseface - you can't keep your dick in your pants, you're putting her in the middle.
Oh my - I laughed so hard I almost wet my pants. He got crickets but what I would have said:
Don't worry your little head about stuff your brain can't compute, dude. I have it covered.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
twinkie ( member #29203) posted at 4:24 AM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
It really is true that you just cannot fix stupid!
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 5:58 AM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
After 10 years, I have a theory: the more they exchange fluids, the more brain cells are destroyed. The excuses will only get crazier.
When DD4 was 10 she asked him why he married me-he told her he THOUGHT he loved me. When she asked him why he married OW? " I feel weird living with her and not being married to her."
There you have it folks the best reason to get married-you feel weird!
You just can't make this shit up.
Good news, eventually you get a chuckle out of the crazy way they justify their actions. Sort of like a side show-you can't not look away.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Threnody ( member #1558) posted at 2:44 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
“If you don't like my opinion of you, you can always improve.” ~ Ashleigh Brilliant
"Great love requires determination." ~ tryingtwo
"Don't try to win over the haters, you're not the jackass whisperer." ~ Brene Brown
Abbondad ( member #37898) posted at 3:54 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
I want to laugh at that, but it truly makes me angry. (What he said, not the baby .gif--THAT makes me laugh!)
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Divorced April Fool's Day 2014
Fear is the mind-killer.Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.I will face my fear.I will permit it to pass over me and through me.-Dune
sparkysable ( member #3703) posted at 4:24 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
"it's good for the kids to see a model of a positive, healthy relationship"
Is he fucking kidding? Does he believe his own shit that spews from his mouth? Wow, he's delusional.
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
Lola2kids ( member #32789) posted at 6:23 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
Oh barf! 
BS: (Me) 48
Kids: twins DD(11)
D-Day April 18, 2011
Him:out Sept. 11, 2011
He moved an ocean away June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"
StillLivin ( member #40229) posted at 7:14 PM on Monday, November 18th, 2013
"Bitch please a good man can't be stolen." ROFLMAO - SBB: 7/2/2014
RavenWood ( member #39847) posted at 12:57 PM on Tuesday, November 19th, 2013
Seriously, who are these people we married? And more importantly, why isn't there a mental disorder defined that would require them to be locked up and treated?!
BS: Me (30s)
Status: Divorced Jan 2014.
DDay: May 2013
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