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User Topic: Job Adjustment
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Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I changed careers just over a year ago. I figure I was already empty nesting, selling my marital home, moving into a smaller one, at the same time, why not get all of the craziness out there at once? (in retrospect I wished I'd "pieced" it out a

This job is significantly "more" in many ways:
- significantly more $$$$ (yay)
- significantly more commitment including much more working late and at home (sometimes yay)
- significantly more stress (not so yay)
- significantly longer commute (definitely not yay)
- significantly more "sit" time between constant work at my desk and all of the conference calls and other meetings (I have gained 10-15 lbs in the past year and THIS is part of that - my old career caused me to run around from place to place much more often)
- significantly strong experience for me and my resume (yay but well earned)
- significantly more travel intermittently (which I'm good with)

So the past year has been CRAZY, but honestly, it's getting better overall, but it is also still all of the above - yay and not - and I feel exhausted and unmotivated at home, except for the basics, pretty much ALL the time.

Any thoughts as to how I change that? I'd really like to tackle some projects at home, but I can't seem to manage to find the motivation or energy.

Me: BW-46
Him: XWH-46

Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017

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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, November 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As someone who has changed careers more often than she changes residences (yeah, I know; hard to believe ) when you have a job that requires significant OT and work from home, it's nearly impossible to devote yourself to home projects on your limited down time.

With your crazy schedule, can you make your own hours, even once in a while? I've always found that 'stolen' hours are when I'm motivated to do something other than veg out. If you can take a few afternoons off a month (even if you have to do some 'home' work in the evening) maybe then you can hit the ground running on a project. I always did that when I had a special occasion dress to sew or a holiday project that I wanted to accomplish.

Think about it.

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Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
Him: WXH-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

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Default  Posted: 7:22 AM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can you hire someone to do the basics at home for you sometimes so you can devote some time to those projects instead of cleaning?

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D-day 27 Aug 2012. Kids 25, 17, 13. 2 dogs.

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