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User Topic: Seasonal affective disorder?
stroppy_wanadoo
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Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't know if it's just the cumulative impact of a lousy year, or if it truly is related to the time change/time of year, but I am REALLY feeling run down and depressed lately. I'm lethargic, melancholy, easy to tear up, and want nothing more than to lay on my couch wrapped in a blanket all day, every day. Of course, I have a family and children and a job and a million commitments so I don't do it, but I spend the day fantasizing about it, with sadness.

I've heard about light therapy being a potential "cure" for SAD... anybody have any other thoughts? I don't feel like I should be medicated at this point - would love to try some other things first. This feeling has come on in the last few weeks - somewhere around the time change.

I do think a big part of what I am feeling is grief over the death of my best friend in August. The hole seems to get bigger rather than smaller. I knew I would miss her, but never imagined it would be so intense.

Thinking of everyone else who also is feeling down and out this time of year. (hugs)


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 3:27 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((Stroppywanadoo)))

I get it. I don't get depressed, but my moods definitely change during the cold, dark months.

I have heard of two people who used those lights and they both said that it helped them.

Both times the doctor prescribed it, and I even think insurance covers it, depending on what type you have.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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DixieD
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Default  Posted: 3:29 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SW, I use light therapy every morning starting when the days get shorter. I think it helps. I'm not one to reach for medication quickly without trying something else first.

I noticed several years ago that I would get weepy, tired and run down around the same time every year and I was thinking WTH? Couldn't explain it or figure it out. A friend of mine mentioned SAD. It seemed to fit. I borrowed her Light Box and it helped, so then I bought my own.

Hope you feel better soon.

[This message edited by DixieD at 3:31 PM, November 18th (Monday)]


Growing forward

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stroppy_wanadoo
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Default  Posted: 3:32 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you both for the thoughts and info.

Dixie, where did you buy the light box? And suggestions as to type, size, etc?

Trying to avoid going to the doctor... just don't have the extra $$$ right now for a non-emergency doctor visit (plus I hate going to the doctor when nothing is *truly* wrong...).


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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 4:04 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anxiously waiting to hear about light box. I know my h has this and I am about to strap a flashlight to his neck.


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TrustedHer
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Default  Posted: 4:14 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My IC has SAD. Kind of ironic, since you irrationally expect your IC to be perfect and flawless in every way.

She has some special kind of light on her desk in her windowless office, which is on all the time.

If I remember, I'll ask her Friday.


Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

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DixieD
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Default  Posted: 4:27 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Like I said, mine is several years old. It's a Nature Bright SunTouch Plus by Phillips. It looks like the photo in this link. http://www.presstv.ir/detail/159203.html

I think I bought it at a drug store or a store that sells medical supplies. There is a local store which allows renting of some supplies prior to buying. Perhaps you can find one that will do that also.

I've seen other units, which use blue light, at Costco. I've read pros and cons about the blue light units.

Check out Amazon.com through the SI link and that would give a good idea of different units too.

Take into account if you are taking any medication that would affect photosensitivity.

Pentup, the flashlight would be an interesting idea.


Growing forward

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TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SAD is real. I'll check the brand name on the light box FWW uses and get back to you.


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worried_lady
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Default  Posted: 5:00 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I use a light box for this reason. I have a Suntouch Plus. Skyeffect Technology. I bought mine off of Amazon and I love it. I have used it for about 5 years now. Starting in October and lasting through March or early part of April. Somebody would have died if I had not started using it. Me or somebody in my way. I need my sunlight. I use it for around 20 minutes every morning. I read or check email or read here, something to cover the 20 or so minutes that I need to sit and soak up the rays. I have tired it in the evening and I can't sleep so mornings work much better for me to use it then. If I have to get up early to use it I do. Totally changed my life.


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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 5:31 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hit a funk every year around this time. Every stinking year. And every year I think .. hmmm, the last time I felt like crying all the time was last Fall.
I'm ok, but tearing up at everything, laying awake worrying about things that I can't even remember in the morning, tired all the time. So I can empathize.
I do know my Dr. said my vitamin D was pretty low a few years back. I just started supplements again to try to ward off a huge funk. I've also started walking in the mornings with a friend and feel much better after getting some fresh air and a bit of sun. I hope you feel better soon.



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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It is very real and it's a bit h. I hate winter. The things I have found that help me is forcing myself to exercise. Of course we get vitamin D from sunshine and to keep out levels normal it takes approximately 20 minutes a day!!!! So supplementing with OTC vitamin D of around 1,000 units a day help.
And even though it's not good for your skin the thing that makes the biggest difference for me is tanning 1-2 times a week from mid Oct-mid Feb. not super long and not super strong but it helps my overall blahs more than anything.


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BrokenRoad
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Default  Posted: 8:09 PM, November 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My friend "B" swears by her light box, helps with her depression.

I've heard very positive things about them.
Hope that helps,
BR


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stroppy_wanadoo
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Default  Posted: 7:56 AM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks all for the recommendations. I am going to check out a light box today, and get myself some Vitamin D supplements. Feeling very sluggish and "hungover" this morning though I had zero alcohol in days. A morning light box treatment - and maybe exercise (down the road, since I can't stomach that thought right now) - might be what I need.

Interesting thought about the tanning... I do enjoy tanning - the 12-15 minutes of "sun" and warmth a few times a week, and the little bit of glow I get from it. But I stopped a few years ago out of fear of skin cancer, since I am prone to freckles and moles. Maybe I need to think about it in very small doses again. I know it does wonder for my moods.


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Pentup
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Default  Posted: 7:58 AM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My h has had and is currently undergoing treatment for skin cancer. I used to love a tanning bed. After watching what he has gone through, I hope you do not go that route.


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TrulyReconciled
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Default  Posted: 8:59 AM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sunbox - http://sunbox.com/

The triangular vertical one and the larger box-like one.


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AFrayedKnot
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Default  Posted: 9:16 AM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep me too. Thank you for reminding me. Every year I get into a funk and it takes me a while to remember why. Once I remember I put post it notes around the house to remind me, refrigerator, my desk, bathroom mirror, Ect. It answers the question of why do I feel like crap today.

I also go tanning once a week from now through spring. That seems to help alot.


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 12:29 AM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

They are actually selling them in Joann fabric stores now. I don't know if they're any good, so you'd have to do research on them.


Hallelujah! Holy shit! Where's the tylenol?

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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 5:06 AM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes, the Vitamin D!!! It has helped me a lot, too.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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TrustedHer
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Default  Posted: 12:15 PM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My IC uses the Verilux Happy Light.

She says if you start light therapy, do it ASAP, so you have the routine down before the worst time of year, which is January.

There are apparently different theories how it works, how long, where it's placed, etc.


Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

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HurtButHopeful?
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Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, November 23rd (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thank you for starting this thread! All of the sudden I've had a hard time getting out of bed in the morning. Every day worse than the day before. Also feeling "hungover" as someone else pointed out...and no alcohol involved. This happens every year. I start feeling depressed, and I keep trying to figure out what I'm depressed about...sometimes I think I end up creating conflict to be depressed about.

Sooooooo, after reading everyone's input, I'm going to get a light, up my vitamin D intake, & make sure I get exercise. Maybe also bundle up and get some outdoor sunlight on sunny days...but not looking forward to that one.

HBH


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