I'm looking for advice here.....its been just over a month since D-Day and we are stuck in limbo. My Wife says she "is sorry", but maintains her affair is my fault as I was emotionally distant and didn't show her enough attention. She had recently completed 30 day rehab for narcotics and alcohol, and was active in our local AA chapter. Her Mentor is a recovered alcoholic, an MD and seemingly a concerned Mentor. Or so I thought until I came home from work early and found them in bed together...awkward! I was completely clueless and blindsided. Now her position is ...no counseling (doesn't trust them) and talks mostly about how angry and sad SHE is. She basically tells me to get over it, move on, etc. I'm still in way too much pain and shock. She has, of course, dropped AA which is not good as she is drinking again. I want to R but need a willing partner to do so. Any thoughts, ideas suggestions????
[This message edited by tootrusting13 at 9:18 PM, November 18th (Monday)]