Initially, my FWH told me that he was with four AP's. I was under the impression that three were brief and I focused on the 7 year LTA. It's not as if I gave him a pass on the others, it was the enormity of how long it lasted that I had difficulty with.
A couple of weeks ago we sat down to talk. During that discussion he mentioned that one of the other 3 AP's affair took place during the last two years of the 7 year LTA. In other words, he had a concurrent 2 year A within the 7 year A.
Since I technically knew about the others, he was under the impression that I was only concerned about the longest one. Guess again. Now I feel like even more of a fool for not having a clue any of this was going on. I did say "so, when you were juggling three of us, exactly how much attention were you giving me?" He looked down and sheepishly said "none."
The 2 year LTA ended when she moved away. I guess there's a teeny bit of satisfaction in knowing he was cheating on his AP'S but honestly, what does that say about me? I feel like the Queen Schmuck.
UGH!! While he's been doing all the right things, this is definitely a setback. I'm heading back to IC today. I need a pep talk (or a smack upside the head) telling me that continuing to R is still the right thing.
Thanks for letting me vent a bit.