Catchy, I totally get it. WH went into work the Monday after d-day and claims he had an NC conversation with OW where they both agreed to stop the A and work on their marriages. I have NO IDEA what was actually said. I imagine the worst, that me and her BH were portrayed as their prison sentences that they must return to despite their desire for eachother kind of thing, I imaine "I'll miss yous" being thrown around, I imagine banter about how hard it will be to not jump eachother's bones anymore, yuck. I was not privy to that conversation and I should have had a say. The conversation took place so early WH was clearly in the fog and I know in my heart he didn't stand up for our marriage, he didn't say the A was the biggest mistake of his life. He didn't say that she could never be what I was to him.
I'm not a huge fan of what your WH sent. I hate that he apologizes to her and then says they need to talk, WHY? I HATE that he didn't say it was a huge mistake and that he loves you and is recommitting to the marriage, kwim?
I'm not sure what you can do about it now. I've fantasized that WH would NOW tell OW the things he should have, I don't want her living her life thinking they were ripped apart and they will always want eachother even if they can't have eachother, I want her to know that WH rues the day he met her, that he thinks she's a short dumpy fat troll and that he despises her for being a co-accomplice in destroying what is truly important to him, his wife. As IF that would EVER happen. And you know what? Even if it did I think she would believe I made him say it and never really think it anyway.
And, ETA, NC to WH means not effing anymore, not no communication whatsoever. They still work closely together.
[This message edited by OldCow18 at 8:36 AM, November 20th (Wednesday)]