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User Topic: Non-religious book on healthy boundaries?
naivewife
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Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It seems the most recommended book here on personal boundaries is rather religious (can't remember the title right now). Is there another good book out there that addresses healthy personal boundaries? I'm not seeing much on Amazon but it's not an easy topic to find in general.


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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 1:29 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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refuz2bavictim
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Default  Posted: 2:08 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The very first book I ever read on the subject was a long time ago:

Boundaries Where You End And I Begin: How To Recognize And Set Healthy Boundaries by Anne Katherine

It's been years since I read it....so maybe you should check the reviews on Amazon to see if it might be what you are looking for.
I do not recall a religious perspective at all, and I do remember getting some great insight.


I think the religious book(s) you are referring to, is the Cloud and Townsend series. I found those books incredibly helpful, even with the religious perspective.

[This message edited by refuz2bavictim at 2:10 PM, November 19th (Tuesday)]


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IWantDoOver
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Default  Posted: 3:41 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

IC recommended:

"Boundaries in Marriage" by Henry Cloud and John Townsend

Also see: "Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life" by Henry Cloud and John Townsend


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Nest2007
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Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Those last two are religious books. Not much, but if you're bothered by that sort of thing..,


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blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 5:28 AM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Cloud and Townsend books have proven very useful to me. I am a Christian, these do have religious tones within them....but I believe they will help all who read them, regardless of faith, religion, or lack of either.

I would suggest that for $5 including shipping on half.com they are worth a try. It is the price of a tabloid magazine at the grocery store....worst case is you get them, they don't sit well with you, and you donate them to Goodwill. Doesn't seem like much of a risk to me...counseling cost me $70 an hour!

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[This message edited by blakesteele at 5:28 AM, November 20th (Wednesday)]


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blakesteele
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Default  Posted: 5:32 AM, November 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Might go to Amazon....many times they have a preview format where you can read a couple of pages....see writing styles of Cloud and Townsend.


Truthfully, I only read Boundaries in Marriage, but my wife read the original Boundaries book....she is a fan of their work too. She is also a Christian.


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