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confused52204 posted 11/19/2013 13:49 PM

It's coming to an end. I'm a wreck. We r not married so I decided why risk it. I was married before and have a dd 6 yo. She was a blessing to me! The hard part in sharing that never gets easier. I thought I found a wonderful msn after my D. We are together now 4 years. We baught a house last year together I was on cloud 9 so happy that I was going to get my happy ending. Well a week after we moved into the house I found out he was on craigslist for 2 years posted 93 ads to both men and women. I was crushed. Had so many emotions. We tried for 1 yr...I really tried to forgive but there was so many lies. The story just kept building. Now I'm ready to give up. It's to much and I can't risk him being some closest crazy sex manic. I have a little girl to worry about. Who adores him btw! Which was the main reason I tried! I can't bare to look at her in the face and tell her he's leaving. She has no idea. His stuff has been packed in the garage now for well over a month. He claims he's trying to find a place but how hard can that be?

He hates me now bc he sold his home to purchase one with me. Now he's mad bc he's at square one! Everyday is torture bc he thinks that this is no reason to break up a great thing. In my eyes if it was so great to him then he would not have done that. He is now seeking help and stating the therapist gets him she knows he's not bisexual. He claims he did that stuff bc he thought he didn't deserve anything good in his life.

I don't buy it, no straight man would write the things he posted in his ads. They were very explicit. Just a tiny price of me wants to hold onto us and try. Is this normal? He has now screwed me and my "baby making" years. So even if u do find someone then that's out the window.

I think will my daughter be accepting of someone new? Is it worth the gambel? Is this just a totally f'ed up situation and should just run away now? I'm scared to start all over again! He was always so good to me and my dd this totally blindsided me!

Pass posted 11/19/2013 14:59 PM

Here's what it comes down to: It doesn't matter if he's bisexual. If he is making efforts to cheat on you with a woman, man, goat, or bicycle, he is still making plans to cheat on you.

You say he was always so good to you, but cheating does not count as "being good".

You deserve better. Please believe that.

confused52204 posted 11/19/2013 15:52 PM

Actually the bisexual part does matter to me. I think I would have to know that truth in order to make a choice. He denies it. So I can't make a choice. He has tried to prove his love I'm just deviated...

StillLivin posted 11/19/2013 16:06 PM

You say he was always so good to you, but cheating does not count as "being good".

You deserve better. Please believe that.

^^^
this times 10 for you and your daughter both. Regardless of whether he is bisexual, he is a liar and a cheat. Do you want this around your daughter? And then he goes and finds a therapist that allegedly validates him...which btw I'm not buying.
He isn't even tryinig to truly fix himself.

confused52204 posted 11/19/2013 21:03 PM

I had to hear it all over again tonight. It wasn't cheating had nothing to do w cheating. That all I believe is ppl in this website instead of trying to hear him out. He says that it was about not loving himself. He didn't want anyone else. He wanted me all along. Now I have to pay bc this is my fault bc I won't stand by his side. I'm not being there for him.

lifestoshort posted 11/19/2013 22:39 PM

he's trying to grasp at anything he can get cause his sand castle is falling to pieces. you keep moving forward hun, no person who loved you properly would ever do this to you or your child.

be honest with child in saying, hes leaving cause he made some bad choices that I didnt approve of for me or you to see.

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