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User Topic: The light finally came on.... Now what
♀ 40359
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Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Two weeks ago I woke up and realized my life was awesome. I didn't miss my STBX anymore and I actually was annoyed by him. I had a conversation with him last week about meeting with a mediator to get this show on the road. He continues to drag his feet.

This weekend I met someone. I'm not sure I would have been open to anytbing had I not have that epiphany. He knows I have kids but I am not sure what else he knows. He is a friend of my sister.

We went out a couple times this weekend and have been chatting ever sense. He seems very respectful.

This is all crazy to me because a month ago I thought I would never be interested in anyone else.

So a few things...
1. Do I tell him I am still legally married even though we have been done for 6 months now and he hasn lived here in 6 months.
2. If so, how.
3 I know some people will say This is all a bad idea but any other advice on this situation would be helpful.

XWH left 6/2013
DDay 8/19/2013
Divorce final 7/14/2014
False reconciliation 6/15-8/15
DDay 2 8/29/15

Posts: 178 | Registered: Aug 2013
♂ 32258
Member # 32258
Default  Posted: 2:22 PM, November 19th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

1) Yes tell him you are still legally married. Don't take away his choice to decide if he does or does not want to date a married person even if you are only married in the legal sense.

2)Just tell him you are still married and when your D will be final.

3)Have you actually filed. I ask because in my state once the paperwork was done and the PSA was signed the lawyer actually told us that while she doesn't agree with it nor condone it both of us could date other people now that the agreement was signed. She told us that so we knew neither of us could go back and try to file a fault D for adultery since we had already signed the agreement. You want to cover yourself so your WH can't now come back and say you in fact are having an A and cheating on him and try to file a fault D against you.

When to start dating is a personal choice but be careful so you don't get hurt or hurt someone else. I wish you the best.

[This message edited by 7yrsflushed at 2:24 PM, November 19th (Tuesday)]

D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
Divorced 9/2/14 and loving life!

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