I feel for her and I certainly never thought I would hear her H was a WH. They have had a close, abiding relationship that has weathered other storms. They've raised a large family...in fact just had another child. And now he wants to leave them all. In fact has threatened them if he doesn't get his freedom. He's planning on moving OW into their very small town and the BW is likely moving home with the kids.
The thing is, this has triggered me horribly. As in, my friend was talking about it today and I started crying. Had to leave the room to collect myself. My friend said she could tell even before that because it was all over my face that this really hit me. I hurt for the BW and the kids, yes; but I'm surprised at the depth that this hits me.
This is the time of the year the 2A was in full swing and no matter how I try to move past it, the feel of the air getting chilly triggers me anyhow. And my IC has been in the hospital since shortly after school started. So I come here to SI to try and check in.
Is this because I'm in limbo and we never really dealt with the infidelity in our M? Or have those of you who consider yourself healed experienced the same visceral reaction?
D-Day, June 10, 2012
me FBS him idiotic sex addicted, hormone addled, porn watching, post pubescent male with a walking hard on for anything without a penis 4 kids 15 13 12 8 Earned my *F* the hard way.
For the most part infidelity in movies or on TV don't trigger me. So this has taken me aback.
They divorced because he was a serial cheater. Now I understand how she must have felt. Then again, she had the strength to end it despite the fact that they had two kids, and I judge myself as weak in comparison.
Meanwhile my former boss also still works here, as does her xWH. Right down the hall from his new, slightly more than half his age girlfriend. I never got along with my old boss but my heart hurts for her now.
Maybe a lesson that I will take from this is to have more empathy for the suffering of others.
