I recently learned that the relative of a good friend is now one of our number. I met her a few years ago and thought, "This is someone I could be friends with." They were moving away for her H's job and now, because of the A, might be moving back. Not how I wanted to see more of the BW.
I feel for her and I certainly never thought I would hear her H was a WH. They have had a close, abiding relationship that has weathered other storms. They've raised a large family...in fact just had another child. And now he wants to leave them all. In fact has threatened them if he doesn't get his freedom. He's planning on moving OW into their very small town and the BW is likely moving home with the kids.
The thing is, this has triggered me horribly. As in, my friend was talking about it today and I started crying. Had to leave the room to collect myself. My friend said she could tell even before that because it was all over my face that this really hit me. I hurt for the BW and the kids, yes; but I'm surprised at the depth that this hits me.
This is the time of the year the 2A was in full swing and no matter how I try to move past it, the feel of the air getting chilly triggers me anyhow. And my IC has been in the hospital since shortly after school started. So I come here to SI to try and check in.
Is this because I'm in limbo and we never really dealt with the infidelity in our M? Or have those of you who consider yourself healed experienced the same visceral reaction?